Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
It always seems easy for me to just jump up to someone's rescue when they don't even need me-or they can simply handle it themselves. I have them be an excuse for why I can never focus on what I need to do for myself...But then the funny part is that when everyone's gone n away from me I can finally focus n it literally feels like I can breathe. I'm now at the point where I feel like I need to remove myself from my situation to actually do that but of course I dont want anyone to question or feel bad why I'm doing so. I want to be selfish for once in my life without having to apologize or explain myself n the only thing stopping me is me.
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
I think this is both ourselves avoiding our own inner changes and the need for boundaries. Not being able to say no when we mean no.
CODA has meetings all over, some via zoom. It’s worth looking into. Families Anonymous may also have meetings that fit your needs. There are good books about both codependency and boundaries.
The New Codependency by Beatty changed my thinking. The book Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend is very helpful and explains things fully.
I divorced my ex husband whom is an alcoholic, because I needed to take care of myself, my health, and my future goals. He was sinking his own ship and I didn't want to go down with him. I know you feel like you have to help everyone, but you should help yourself JUST AS MUCH as you do for them. You need to show yourself the same level of love you show everyone else!