Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
My Mom said she wanted to start over. That is something I hear a lot and yet nothing changes. This time is the last chance we need to really change or we will lose each other. So I spent time thinking and writing my boundaries down and now it is her turn to write her's down. If we can learn to live with our set boundaries we will be on a better path together. Otherwise we may need to split at the fork in the road. Here is my list of Boundaries maybe they can help you write your own.
My Path to Recovery Through Boundaries:
Overall
*I am not responsible for anyone's personal choices.
*Everyone has choices and I have choices too.
*I am worthy of love and Healthy Relationships.
*I will do what is best for me in the end.
Physical Boundaries
*I will choose where the best place for me to live is.
*I will choose what and where I eat.
*While I do respect people's own personal choices that does not mean I have to put my health in danger to be loved or accepted.
Emotional/Mental Boundaries
*I do not wish to receive gifts and that is OK.
*To build healthy relationships I need to feel Safe and doing uplifting things together is a boundary I need.
*If yelling, belittling, put downs or I feel unsafe I will walk away.
*If someone needs/wants something from me they need to use words to ask me for what they need.
*I will not play mind games anymore. If a person wants to talk with me they can do so face to face.
*I am an Adult I deserve to be seen as such. Respect is a two way street and is something that has to be earned.
*While I respect a person can live however they want I am worthy of the respect that I may not want to live that way.
*I choose not to feel indebted to anyone who helps me find my way. Instead I will Thank Them through living/working/continuing up the path of life the best I can.
*If a person feels I owe them they need to state what is owed. (Preferably from the beginning.)
Spiritual Boundaries
*I am not responsible for anyone’s spirituality.
*I will not pressure anyone to act or believe as I do and I deserve the same.
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Hi. This is my first post. I'm here because my husband is an addict and it's having a negative impact on our marriage and my emotional and mental well being. He's an alcoholic who is also addicted to pornography and video gaming. He spends every moment that he isn't at work or sleeping drinking beer, playing his video games, and looking at porn. He's completely pushed me out of his life. We don't...
a healthy whole relationship.
My question to you, is your mum a narc? an
addict? or untreated hard headed stubborn
codependent.
My mother i believe is a PD narc. i give her
boundaries and i do call her on her stuff.
Nothing seems to help and nothing ever has.
She was even in alanon for 20+ years. She
was calmer during those years she just never
reflected on her own deeper issues.
She is the same or worse at 85 and on opiates.
I say God bless us, the children, Hugs
Great discussion, everyone!
out the words narcissism/narcissistic
This is a good discussion. i have tried everything
under the sun for years with my mother. She always
went around me using others to get at me if so
needed.
i still owe my ex an amends one day. He was my
shield a lot of the time. His own mother was not
so great either.
We both had narc mothers mine worse than his
And in the end we were both were deeply wounded
People, Hugs