Try telling him that it is either you get up so he can get undisturbed sleep- or you stay and he doesn't get any sleeep as you toss and turn and hurt all night long.

I am still trying to get my DH to understand this also- it is the pain, and that is it- don't read into something that doesn't need to be read into- that is what I tell him.

And for lots of people it is more comfy to sleep in a recliner or on a couch- rather than in bed! So you are definitely not alone with that one!!!

Hope you find a comfy place to sleep and can get some rest!! {{{{HUGS}}}}

oh i know this feeling well!I usually fidget and then when i really cant get comfortable or am in too much pain to sleep ,i go downstairs ,make a cuppa and sit/lay and watch the tv for a while.if i think im getting sleepy i`ll go back to bed.
fortunately ,my partener is understanding ,he says he is grateful i dont wake him or he doesnt have to take the sofa(remember if your in chronic pain ,every time he moves it hurts you too).maybe you could gently point this out to him ,that you are doing it as not to cause him a sleepless night too.
the only other suggestion if he makes a big deal about it ,stay there ,as i`m certain a few nights of you tossing and turning ,he`ll be only too pleased that your prepared to leave him to sleep!!(btw ,it neednt interfere with any intimacy ,its just the sleep your trying to let him have peacefully)>good luck ,
hope you can make him see it from your point of view.the other alternetive ,if you havent slept in a long time ,is to see your dr and ask for something to help.
hugs my friend ,hope it wont last too long ,sharon x

sleep what is sleep, I have'nt had a full nights sleep in so long, but yes I do leave and try to lay on the couch.

I'm with Sierra. I move all night. I drag my heating pad from the bed to the recliner to the sofa to a chair to the kitchen then back to bed.

It's a vicious cycle. I can't take sleep meds b/c i'm home alot by myself at night with the kids and am afraid I won't hear them if they need me.

I live for the weekends. I'll get in my recliner with my trusty heating pad and doze all day.

I have the same problem and I try to explain to my husband that I don't want to wake him by tossing and turning all night and I sleep better sometimes in the spare room and beleave it or not if I don't go to the other room on nights like this I find him in the other room.....go figure.

I try to start out in bed with my husband, but his internal thermometer is set real high. So he likes to leave the french doors open. I can't handle the sea breeze-cold, wet draft on my body. So I immediately turn around and head for the downstairs bedroom. It's his choice since he knows how the weather affects me. Heck, the sheets are even damp in the morning.

Sleep???
I could not wake mine with a bomb so I do not have to worry about that.But when he doesn't wear his CPAP mask,and I am having trouble getting comfy due to pain. There are night I do go to the couch and toss and turn there.I reassure him its not him,just sometimes I need to do it.He doesn't take it personal at all so I am lucky.

It is hard to get that great nights rest. I toss and turn and leave about 3-4 times. My husband you could rob our house and he wont wake up so I can only offer the fact of trying to come up with a postive solution you both can live with. I know for a long time I needed a special bed this helped maybe that is what you need. Also I know of may couples who husbands snore like bears and they choose to sleep in the other roomm.....it is hard to go through it but if you talk and come up with a solution that would help. Approach it positive sometimes guys can get defensive...

Many a morning one of us wakes up on the couch. We do try to fall asleep together. Some day I am up at 4 or 5 and that's it.

Better one of you gets rest than none of you

Doug/Ouch

i hear you i do it all the time and my husband response is the same. not only that he sets his alarm for 3 am and hits snooze for 2 and half hours before he gets up who does that it drives me crazy since sometimes i can't get to sleep till 2am and at 3am beep beep beep

i tell him change the alarm or i sleep on couch and that's what i do

how long have you been married? me 20 years so some things arent that touchy with us

take care

Sleeping is hell for me. I am in my worst pain at night. I am not sure why. Maybe I just notice it more. I rarely sleep more than 4 straight hours.

My 4 year old sleeps with me right now and my husband sleeps in the spare room. Of course my son tosses and turns but he is going through a phase and he will not sleep alone.

I have a recliner in my room and spend a lot of time going between my bed and the recliner. Sucks.....but it is my life, unfortunately.

Good topic.

Lora

he says he doesnt mind me tossing and turning, but when I hurt I just have to get up and go somewhere else, kinda like a wounded animal, gotta be alone!

manny 123, I have been married 25 yrs this sept!I have always slept with him til the last year, that pain has gotten so bad interferes with my sleep.

I moved to a different room about 4 months agobecause of problems with marrage but found that im more comfortable as well as her. its nice to have a place to go to just get away,...

I like that metaphor- like a wounded animal- maybe I can use that to explain to some people that I just want to be alone sometimes!

My one and three year olds both want to sleep with us- if I'm on the couch my three year old will come down to the couch and climb up w/ me!

Luckily the baby is a daddy's boy- so as long as daddy is home, at his side is where the baby stays.

But, sleeping- with two little ones, and one big kid I never get to worry about my own sleep- I have to make sure they all get their sleep!

One day I will get a recliner so I can sleep in that- no room for anyone else on it! LOL!@