I haven't slept in our bed for about 2 years - I ended up having 3 surgeries in a year, all 3 times, sleeping on the couch as it was easier getting up during the night and much more comfortable. Now I sleep there all the time. Does hubby like it ?? No! Does he tell me about it?? Yes!! Does it bother me?? Yes, but I am just not comfy in the bed - we desperately need a new mattress, but it'll have to wait for other things to get done first.

Add to my pain, the fact that I snore, am waiting for my CPAP machine to be delivered, am restless and am up at least 3 times a night, he'd never get any sleep either - so he should consider himself lucky that I sleep in another room!!!

I sleep in my bed all of the night, my sofa is a futton, and it is not too comfartable, and I only have a dog, no husband and he does not snore.

Take care,

i end up on the couch a lot. my 3 year old still gets up at night and my husband snores and has "sleep horniness" so i just try to avoid all of those things. i've got a futon too. i have a specific pillow styling that allows for enough lumbar support... somehow..

I sleep in my bed all night, and my husband sleeps on the couch. We can't sleep together. He says I snore, but truthfully, he is the horrible sleeper. He twists and turns, hits me, and he's the one that snores. My two cats sleep with me, and it works great!!

Yes hon.. I know exactly what you are talking about when you say the word SNORE......zzzzzzzzzzzz oh boy its annoying and aggravating!

I got some cheapo earplugs. They are small little earplugs (like foam) stuck 'em in my ears and problem solved.

my wife and I don't sleep together anymore either. I snore and she can't sleep and I respect that. I also toss and tear a lot because I can't sleep well from my pain issues. I useally start out in the worthless old bed and then end up in the couch when the bed starts to hurt too much. My wife also likes to stay up late and I don't so that also makes it hard to sleep together. I miss it, I don't like it but I have accepted it and I don't get mad at her for it anymore. I would like to have a CPAP but I can't afford the sleep study and I am sick and have other issues to worry about right now I was planning to see a sleep doc when I feel better and get my wife back. As long as I know she is down stairs it doesn't bother me that much. Plus my pain pills and my sleeping pills knock me out so much I don't care who is there with me.

I do understand your husband's thinking he thinks you don't care for him, or what he wants, or love him because he sleep alone. I was very mad at my wife and we fought about it all the time until she finaly got mad and said fine I will prove it to you. she came to bed and after the fith time she woke me up because of my snoring I said I was sorry and said I will never get mad at you again and I never did. So do that to your husband, sleep with him and wake him up everytime he snores and then ask could you sleep like this, it worked for me

oh I have woken him up to ask him to turn on his side, or I will give him a small nudge, he gets annoyed.

I sleep alone as I'm without a spouse. After all I've read guess there's worse things than being lonely. LOL

I usually fall asleep in my recliner wake up at 2 or 3 am then I take my 2 dogs and get in the bed until around 8 am.
My ex snoored very loud I used the foam ear plugs they work pretty good for me.

I start off sleeping with my DH and most nights I stay there but now and again when he is snoring or I have sciatica I do head for the spare bed.

BTW one of our dogs certainly does snore almost as loud as he does....well she is HIS dog......LOL

What I would like to get when we replace our current bed is one with separate mattresses but with the one base. Sleep together without having the constant movement - his or mine - disrupting the other.

We discovered years ago that I sleep better when he's not there. I'm terrified he'll bump my foot and then my pain will escalate. Winter makes the pain worse so he almost always sleeps in the guest room. Every time we try to start back in the same bed, something happens that put shim in the guest room. I feel awful, but it's not just my hubby. I used to have the dogs in bed with me and I'm too scared that they'll hurt my foot so they sleep with my hubby. I don't know what I'll do when my 1 year old starts asking to sleep in our bed. I love snuggling with him but again, scared that he'll hurt my foot. Plus, I am a terrible sleeper. I keep my hubby awake tossing and turning AND he snores. We're happier in separate beds most of the time. Actually, I've heard that a large percentage of new houses are being built with double Master bedrooms! It's not just CP patients, it's people who need sleep and can't get it by sharing a bed.

My other half is a big guy and a bed hog,snores and I can't sleep at night so we don't share a bed unless I'm heavily medicated.Sad.

@brokenyolk..."sleep- horniness...HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! I cannot stop laughing! My husband had a bad case of that last night. My husband snores very loudly, & sometimes he will go & sleep on the couch if it gets to be too bad. We bought that expensive "sleep number" King Size bed a few years back when my pain 1st started. We paid $1000 for a set of sheets because the sheets we had felt like knives cutting my legs (so did the expensive sheets). We ended up returning the bed within that 30 day period because my husband likes to sleep right up on me (if you know what I mean) & that bed did not allow for that. That meant he was sleeping on a hard crease because it was actually two bed tops so you could each pick your "sleep #". We have been married over 10 years, and we sleep right next to each other with arms and legs thrown all over the other person. He helps with my pain by squeezing my legs between his legs. It would be perfect if he did not snore. He sleeps like a rock. I get up with the kids if needed, or invite them into our GIANT bed if I am too tired. (I LOVE when the kids sleep with us...he does not). I try to listen to music or fall asleep first, but you know how hard it is to fall asleep fast when you have pain. I am still laughing at the "sleep-horniness"...LOL. I just know that my husband will be coming home for "lunch". I just love that guy!!!
-Jennifer

I too, start off in bed, but then can't stand the pain anymore, and my husband is a snorer too, but I just feel anxious about getting back into that bed after I've been up and down so many times during the night. I end up on the couch in our downstairs anywhere between 4 and 6am. So, you're not alone.

Occasionally one of us ends up in another room.