I spend the night sleeping all over the place.It is normal for people in chronic pain to sleep all over the house.

Wow, I thought I was the only person who did this...I will go from our bed to the spare bedroom to downstairs to the couch, then the recliner...Sometimes I sleep walk too because of the Ambien, It will make you do wild and crazy things in your sleep. Anyway, I understand pain at night and you are really caring in the fact that you dont want to wake your hubby or at least that is how I take it and that is why I go into the spare bedroom so I dont disturb others when I am not feeling well. Hope you get the relief that you need and soon. Try sleep meds - that helps sometimes. T. Let me know if you need to talk.

I do the same thing. I was sleeping in the recliner in the living room for awhile because I have chronic pain in my neck due to herniated discs, and sometimes I can't take the pain of lying down, so I sleep in the chair. I feel bad because my husband said when I'm not there, he feels like I don't want to be with him.... but he really does understand because he suffers from chronic back pain too. I don't really sleep well anywhere.

I think it's nice that you even start out in bed with him. Tell him to count his blessings. A lot of chronic pain people start out in beds by themselves! There are beds to sleep in and then there are beds for other things. LOL.

I can't remember the last time I had a full night's sleep-before my first child 20 years ago maybe? My hubby and I are relative newly-weds ( not quite two years) and we don't sleep in the same place! He sleeps in the recliner and I have to sleep on the bed with lots of pillows to prop up the various part of my body that don't work! I'm still up atleast 5 times during the night because staying in one position hurts like hell. Has he ever read any of the posts on this site? Maybe having him join one of the support groups for himself would help- just a suggestion. xoxoL:yn

My husband use to complain as well, he took it as me not wanting to be close to him. Kind of being pushed away. I ended up staying in bed two nights in a row just after my last surgery so I was in particularly severe pain. He kept waking up to my changing positions to much or making groaning noises, and was really worried about me. After two nights with very little sleep I talked to him and explaines that I go to another room for two reasons.
A- He has to drive a Gas Truck in the morning so I do not want to deprive him of sleep.
B- Honestly sometimes it is easier to find a position with less pain when alone in a bed... He weighs more and so it can tilt me that way.

After actually seeing what was going on at night he understand better and is more comfortable with it. He still gets moody if I don't stay in bed for many nights in a row, but it is more of a cute hurt feelings thing now. I try to stay as much as possible because I do not want to hurt his feelings, but many nights it is just impossible.

This conversation has been brought up a few times in my house hold, I tell him i have a hard time falling asleep sometimes so when i do his alarm clock is set for 330am and he lets it go off hitting snooze for an hour and a half. I told him so a lot of times i just sleep on the couch so i don't get woken up.

i get up and move from room to room... my wife sometimes tells me to leave the room so she can sleep.

thanks, so no one stays in there room all night! I wish he could read this! or would.

Absolutely, this is true! Many nights I can't get to sleep unless I read or watch some tv. Sometimes I think my pain meds keep me awake also. A lot of the mornings I wake up in the recliner in the living room. I know I toss & turn a lot at night trying to ease the pain & try to get comfortable & don't want to disturb my bf. I think that's why most of us leave the bed......we don't want to disturb our significant others! I have had to tell my bf not to take it personally. Make sure you have your hubby read these replies! :o) Take care, Kathy

oh no, i wouldn't want my honey to read this forum..lol. its my lil space..

it would be like a probation officer going to a closed AA meeting... lol, it just aint cool..

(i do wake up in the recliner often. i have moved it to the bedroom now so i don't feel like i am abandoning my wife. It is comforting to watch her sleep. i love her deeply.)

When I had a boyfriend, I'd often end up on the couch OUT OF CONSIDERATION FOR HIM becuase I'd wake up in pain and not want to wake him up. I'd take meds, smoke my cigs, and try to calm myself back to sleep. Your husband should do his research. You are only being considerate trying not to wake him up. YOU DO NOT HAVE A CHOICE WHETHER OR NOT YOU WAKE UP IN PAIN!!!!!!!!! And if you do, you can only try not to disturb your husband. I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!!!! I'm sorry you have to deal with this...

Much love,
Lisa

It sort of sounds like to me that maybe your husband is having a hard time accepting change that is being caused uncontrollable by your health. Maybe he just misses you sleeping next to him.

Add me to the sleepless club too. I am not on any "schedule" (and goodness knows I have tried,tried, tried)but the pain dictates my rest day in and out. So I usually sleep for a couple hours here and there until the pain wakes me up. It is frustrating and I can totally relate to the various posts. Before my husband died, I had to move to the guest bedroom because he had to work and needed his rest. This pain makes it so difficult to get a solid stretch of sleep-I was (and still am) restless, would (and still do) turn TV on/off just to get my mind off the pain, not that it works well either. It has been 4 years since he has been gone and the sleeping issue with the severe chronic pain is an ongoing battle. I try to be very careful with my meds so as to not take them too frequently but sometimes they are the only thing that help me zonk out for a couple of hours. Sorry to hear others experience the same sleep problems but, selfishly, I feel better knowing what I'm experiencing is a result of the chronic pain.

my husband gets upset that I don't go to bed at the same time he does because I'm in pain....

I have to sit in a hot shower to relax my muscle dysfunction....

lately I feel bad... because he knows I can't go to bed at the same time as him... sometimes he ends up falling asleep on the bathroom floor next to me while i sit in a hot shower.... or falling asleep on the sofa while I try to watch tv to keep my mind off of the pain...

I personally don't understand why he refuses to go to bed by himself.... but I still feel bad about it....

and to top it off... he has a deviated septum so he snores like a squealing hog at night... like its not bad enough to try to sleep through the pain covered in ice packs and heating pads....