Hi Cherry, i can relate to the alone feeling. I have recently split from my boyfriend, my cat just died but I still have my little dog. i have 3 grown sons who have their own lives. I divorced their Dad, married another who died and now caught my BF cheating.
I am out of work due to my neck pain and don't know what to do from here. Just trying to take it one day at a time.
You can too. that alone feeling is pretty rough, but this site daily strength, has many support groups.
Meditate, just breathe and hang in there.
I am also new to this site. Hang in there. thank God for computers!!

Also, I have heard of the mind body connection, and I am sure that some things have been stuffed and have not helped the pain. I do recognize that in myself. But you can't blame yourself, and feel guilty, you again are in another negative cycle.

First I would like to say WELCOME our family and friends. We love that you found us and I hope and pray you give us a chance and stick around. We are to offer our support just as we get support from other here. We've all helped each other through some trying times. Some of us have came here to find others that understand want we are going through and to ask questions about procedures, meds and our illness..........please sty with us and I'm sure we can help you through this. I also a FM and it is very pain full and can cause depression. Especially if it goes un dx. Rain can be a killer and can also add to your depression........please fill free to vent away.....ask question etc. Again welcome and we are happy you found us. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs

Cherry,

First of all, welcome! Second, why are you giving your stuff to the kids? I don't think that; that is not necessary, unless you are moving to Fiji, and planning in never come back to the State's, if that is the case, TAKE ME WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!

Hun, ALL of us here are in pain, and all of us go through our ups, downs and sideways, but giving up is NOT an option! Do you have a pain management Doctor taking care of your pain? If you don't, you need to find one. Second, make sure to try all of the therapies out there; accupunture, bio-feedback, yoga, pilates, massage, etc. Not everyone can do all of these therapies, but if one of them give you relief, half of the bottle is won.

Create a journal, some people call it the "pain journal", but I call it the accomplishment journal. In this journal you can write what trigger your pain that specific day, and also add the accomplishments of that day, ie: I got up today in a 7 pain, took my meds at 9 AM, and that brought me down to 4. Today I was able to clean the bathroom, cook and do some walking, life is good". See when you add a positive thing that happened to you in any given day, life starts looking better and better, and your complete attitude will change.

I live alone with my mutt Malcolme, and I can assure you that life is hard, specially when I am in pain, but I am done with the "why me?", I have taken this pain, and all of the issues that I have, as a challenge, and I want to win, so what I am trying to tell you is, there is life with pain, don't feel like you have to be in a mumu in bed every single day, life is good, and you should enjoy it as much as you can.

Take care and I am glad and happy to have you here.
Tipper

Hi Cherry -

I wish I had something profound to say but just know this is a great place for support with a lot of great people that are here for you and who understand. Including me. :)

Hugs
Kallie

Welcome Cherry,
You are at the right place and most definitely at the right time. As with Kallie I have nothing profound to add but in reading all your responses I'm feeling the love and power of this awesome group. Hang with us and we will all get thru these ugly rainy painful times.
Terry

I want to welcome you to DS and to this board. I don't spend a lot of time in this forum, because I spend most of my time in the bipolar and RA forums. But there are a lot of really good people here, and I want to give you a bit of hope.

I have, like everyone else a lot of pain. For me, God is using it to change me into his image. I know that many people think that a relationship with Christ is supposed to make life perfect, but I think that is not at all what the Bible says. instead, God has given me a joy and a peace. He has taken me on a healing journey in my heart and soul, and even restored some, though not all of my body.

I want to encourage you that we are here for you. I am so glad you shared the trials you are going through. I am sure there is a lot more going on. Anyway, big hugs and good to know you.

Hello there out in Chronic Pain USA!
So glad you are here Cherrych.
I remember the first 3 supports I found after a couple of years on unrelenting pain and stress because of the medical community's, my family, and friends response to my new disease of pain on top of the ones that caused it.
What a title wave of emotion I experienced.
This is a wonder full, heavenly place of support, love, acceptance, information, etc. etc., and all because of one persons love for another who was suffering. The reason D.S. is here is from love, God, & and a person who believed they could make a difference in the life of their loved one and many more. They persisted and we have this place to come to for very specific and important needs.
I am so full of gratitude for D.S. and all the support I have found here and it has also filled another important need.
The need to give, & feel useful in the form of the ability to help others with our experience, strength, and hope.
Keep your self wrapped in the arms of God( whatever your belief is), and all of us here who care. Come be with us when you are able. It will help.

In Love Light Truth & Service
'Stubborn' TerrieAnn
ralop

Hi welcome,
glad you found the site I think this group and site is so different from others I have tried them and really dont like them.

Hope yo can stay and hang out with us the more the merrier

I'm having a very difficult time this morning. It's never easy to get my body to function for the first couple hours of the day. I get up very early to allow myself enough time to medicate and ease into the day so I can try to work.

I take Sunday and Monday off to give my body a much needed break, though it never seems to be enough.

I think all the support you wonderful people are offering is a beautiful thing. It makes me feel like maybe I'm not alone.

You are not alone. We all have chronic pain. Some worse than others, but pain nevertheless. It is important that you stay involved, with a passion and mindset of what this sight is about, strength. Having the strength to persevere. Stay with it.
Best wishes,
David.

Cherrychange, I do understand when you say how mornings are difficult. The add stiffness in the mornings doesn't help either. My kids when in over the week end for a family wedding and my body feel so done. The wedding is a lot of setting and the my husbands family came here in between the wedding and reception . Sunday I could hardly move and was so tired so I didn't do much and for me that is the worse decision to make.ifi don't move around I add more pain for myself. Lol I know better but I was so tired and fighting a cold. So needless to say this morning is very rough . I can feel your pain and I do understand. I hope your day gets better for you. Hugs

I'm not sure which is worse...trying to get moving or trying to stay still. I have been in a hopeless frame of mind recently and I'm truly amazed to have stumbled upon this group. I've tried to adopt an 'accept and adapt' attitude, but I guess I don't knowhow to adapt to living in so much pain.

It is so comforting to know I'm not alone. The immediate people in my life don't have a clue...

Cherry,
How long have you been in pain and do you know what it is from?
Mine was a car accident and I understand having to adapt one day it seemed my life has changed and that sounds dramatic and to me it was.

I dont let the pain win I know sounds cheesy but I have to keep moving keep on trying to figure out what works to be productive and happy

i have felt at the end of my rope so many times and so alone im so sorry u are going through this like so many here this group has been so helpful to me and atleast has helped in the isolation and understanding
second if what your doing isnt giving u any releif then u got try other stuff other drs, other meds, other exercises, operationsor other suggestions i dont know what wrong with u but i know as bad as some days get there are answers for at least releif and trying to have some quality of life
big hugs hang in there