I double-dog dare a newbie to ask a question or just jump into the discussion! lol Now you HAVE to post cause this is a double-dog dare!! And you know what happens if you DON'T answer ~~ it means you're CHICKEN. LOL

We won't bite. Hugs, Lee

cant beat double dog dare lol but yes come on in sit down and injoy big bear hugs minnie

Hi David, i am not a newbee but i wanted to ask a question. Do your friends or family think that if you have meds., than that should take care of it, Why be sad or have any other needs related to cp. I feel so lonely a lot of the time and the only support i really get is on ds. Sometimes i just do not want to go on, I hope no one else has to go thru this as you begin to feel so alone. Hugs to all

Unfortunately others think our meds take away all of our pain and we should be happy all the time. I don't know about you, but mine just take the edge off. I find it gratifying to know that people like you Regina know me and we've never met. There is strength in numbers, and we have a great, painful family right here. This is the place to share your feelings and get the strength you need to make it through the tough times.

My wife is beginning to understand me, but I'm not sure if she ever really will.

Hang in there.

David.

Regina,your not alone in this. Many of us CP go through this including me. My husband who loves me very much thinks it's all in my head. At least by his comments that's how I feel. If I'm having a pain day it like oh great here we go and then the little comments. Like Sunday my son, son in law and hubby was do some work which include carry very heavy things. My son in law said later how his knees were bothering him from the work bhal bhal. My hubby said you should go see about them. It's not normal if you have knee pain..........I had asked why is it normal when it's my knees and not normal when it's his? His respond was," your always in pain , everything hurts." then the look from him like whatever,you say your in pain.........it always hurt so bad and it does cause me ALOT of heartache and it make me so mad when he does it .........that's why this group helps me so much. Until I found this group maybe it is in my head. Maybe FM is something they just call when they do t know what's wrong with you......I might not comment alot but I always read the post because then I feel there are people that understand and I don't feel so all alone with my pain..........so I do understand what your going through and I do understand how painful those small comments from family and friends can be or even the no comments can hurt worse. Like when you say something about hurting and then it's like you didn't say anything at all and they keep doing what their doing and act like you didn't say anything . Remember we are all here for you as you are for us. Hugs

First, Minnie, you are just the cutest and if we met in person I probably couldn't resist pinching your cheeks!

Second, I'm definitely not new to DS, I've been here 4 years, been in severe pain for 9 years. Oh yeah, and I'm only 24, haha. I've seen many people come and go but the core of this group remains strong. I have been dealing with depression for the first time in my life. I used to help people, which in turn helped me, but with this depression, I've been (so far) unable to help myself so I've had a hard time attempting to help others. I used to respond to many posts but not as of lately. For that, I'm sorry. To me, depression has been a bigger killer than even my pain. At least with my pain I can try things to help but with this depression, I'm so deep in it that I don't know where to start... And meds are not the answer. It is situational depression that must be worked through. But again, I don't know where to start.

What I want all of you to know, whether you're a new or old member, I read everything here, you are being heard by me. I feel for all of you. I've been at this for 9 years and it's still like an open wound. This is an incredible group. Sure, we may have a bad seed once in awhile but the core remains incredibly amazing. And we love to reach out to those reaching out. I assure you that somehow, sometime I will get through this depression and become an active member again.

I must add WELCOME to all the members that have joined since I went MIA. We are always sad you have the need to be here but so happy you found us since this is the best resource out there and we know DS will lift you up just as it has done for us for many years. Kick off your shoes and make yourself at home!

Much love and understanding,

Lisa

Leeall, I'm not new but I added a comment. So do I still get a doggie bone. Lol

Regina ~ I get the comment "Oh does your back STILL hurt" all the time. People just don't understand that just because we take medication, it does NOT take care of all the pain. They must think we're in a drugged stupor all the time. Sheesh. Either that, or they must think it's gonna heal up by itself. LOL

And ll long years ~ I don't have any doggie bones, but how about a pigs ear?? My daughters dog loves those. LOL Hugs, Lee

I love that part in "A Christmas Story!" So I had to post the dialogue.



Flick: Are you kidding? Stick my tongue to that stupid pole? That's dumb!
Schwartz: That's 'cause you know it'll stick!
Flick: You're full of it!
Schwartz: Oh yeah?
Flick: Yeah!
Schwartz: Well I double-DOG-dare ya!
Ralphie as Adult: [narrating] NOW it was serious. A double-dog-dare. What else was there but a "triple dare you"? And then, the coup de grace of all dares, the sinister triple-dog-dare.
Schwartz: I TRIPLE-dog-dare ya!
Ralphie as Adult: [narrating] Schwartz created a slight breach of etiquette by skipping the triple dare and going right for the throat!

I've been here about 5 months but I'd like to put my $.02.

Yes, if you take meds you should be fine! LOL.

We don't talk about my meds but when I say I cannot drive because I hurt too much there is eye rolling. Really, why can't you drive? I am also telling them that I will not drive if I have recently taken a pain pill. My extra meaningful staring back at the eye roll tends to get the message across.

I cannot drive any long distance, my foot cannot be trusted to beable to put enough pressure on the peddles. If we as a family go on a long trip I know it annoys them that we have to take breaks so I can walk around a bit. We have less issues on this if my son in law is with us because he has a pea sized bladder. How odd that stopping for him repeatedly is okay, stop cause I am in pain and the annoyance can be felt in the air. These are people who love me.

My boyfriend goes in the opposite direction. He is constantly asking if I have taken my meds and if it was up to him I would be bed ridden. Neither of these scenarios is ideal.

I'm glad to have you guys to get me through when the people that love me don't want to hear it. Hugs, Barbara

@Leeall, PIG EARS? I don't remember that being part of the deal . I want my bone.!!!!!! LOL

Well said Dave! Yes, if you are lurking, lurk no more! Like someone said, we have our moments but when it comes time to give support, we are there!

As far as family and significan others understanding our pain.... I am single and my dog Malcolm aproves of my medications, he loves when I take him for an extra long walk. My other family members do approve of my meds and understand my condition (thank God!), but if they didn't, I will just do what I needed to do anyways, no one knows the pain that we go through day in and day out, and I am the kind of person that I do what I need to do without caring what others think. If your family is not accepting your meds or condition, don't get too bend out of shape, because when it comes to chronic pain; no one can understand it unless they have been through it in their lifetime.

Hugs to all,

HIII Liiiisaaa!!

Nice to see you!

It appears as if we have a triple dog dare out there. Any takers???

David.

I am very fortunate to have understanding family and my boyfriend. I can't say I have friends IRL because most of them don't bother with me anymore - I can't do anything fun like going out to a movie or playing pool like I used to. My family believes my pain, supports me and they understand that I can't drive the 1-2 hrs to visit them very often. My boyfriend constantly asks how I'm feeling, 'do you need anythng?' 'is there anything I can do for you'... he is sweet. And he suffers too from Chronic Fatigue so we kind of 'get' each other. I have FMS too so between my chronic pain, FMS and his sleep apnea and chronic fatigue we are a good couple. Like the saying about how friends are just two angels, each with one wing, they have to hold onto each other to fly (paraphrasing of course).

Now I have a new family doctor who seems very compassionate and understanding so far. AND I have the best PT around... he provides me with so much information and validation of my pain - going to PT is like going to a therapy session. I just wish all the support from everyone could ease my physical pain - but it does ease my mental discomfort when I'm not too far down. Unfortunately when the pain really takes hold no amount of emotional support can bring me out of the depression. But I keep pushing on, what else can I do.