Chronic Pain Support Group

Physicians and professionalsdefine pain as chronic if it lasts longer than three to six months and is persistent. It's distinct from acute pain that is a direct result of injury or trauma. This support group is dedicated to those suffering from chronic pain. Discuss treatments that have worked for you, find advice for your specific experience, and find support. You're not...

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jancam
jancam
Hey, everyone...

Most of you who know me here know that I rarely talk
specifically about my pain or my feelings...

I've withdrawn from the boards lately because I have felt overwhelmed
and frustrated for/with/by others pain....and have felt that words were pretty futile in the face of what people go through here..

I've just realised the last couple of days that those exact sentiments apply to myself..

I'm in a " flare" again ( or still.....seems it never does go away...just subsides to the point of bearability)...
Well....see....what's the point or use of saying something like that?

I've not felt this brought-down since coming to DS, in spite of having been through some really rough, potentially life-threatening times..

I am SO tired of fighting.
For some kind of quality of life...
To be able to give and recieve joy..
To not see everything through the dark glass of pain and sickness..

I've never felt so tired....so, so much effort for such little gains..
To end up back almost to where I started.

So..this is a CP site.....who isn't hurting and tired?

So, part of me feels like I need to talk about this here..
Because I am drifting away from here..
And from my family again...
And from the bits of me that I had found again through being here.

I'm sorry for such a down post...

I appreciate all of my friends here more than I can say...
I did find myself again here...

Luv n hugs...jc
deleted_user
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dear jc... you are a wonderful person and came to my aid last week when i needed someone to care.. i will forever remember that day, and how you reached out to help me get thru a horrible day... please remember that if you werent here that day, i would have never made it thru like i did... i too struggle with the pain of reading the posts that are so over whelming ...and i often think that maybe i shouldnt come back because i cant offer enough, but you offer so much to so many, and it would be a loss without you here..(no pressure), just wanted to let you know that YOU make a difference here, and you would be greatly missed..thank you for reaching out to us today... much love ~stinke~
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was wondering cuz hadnt seen u in a bit. Im a newby, but love this site, feel drawn to it, either to help or get help. I so understand bout withdrawing n being so depressed where u dont want to talk or go anywhere, or see anybody, soo hard to crawl out of the dark hole. I allways say i wish i had a magic wand. I work in hospice, which is hard but very rewarding, makes me feel guilty sometimes, here r these people r in the toughest times of there lives n im whining about being in soooo much pain. But nice to come here n relate to everyone nhear yor not alone, n what we go through is very real n very hard. U hang in there honey. Were here for u n understand where u r coming from. Big hug. Michelle
gr8ful2b
gr8ful2b
jc, thank you for the heartfelt words. I understand what you mean when you talk about "quality of life". I think that is what we all strive for but fall short when those flares strike.

I pray that those damn flares calm down for you soon, Dianna
tendonshurt
tendonshurt
JC I could've written this post myself. You hit the nail on the head for me. I hold it in way to much. I need to be utilizing this board more. Maybe it would help us both to try and post regularly. I think. I'm glad your here and my friend. I'm here for you anytime you want to talk.

Keep sharing and trying to get better. Hugs, Marci
4solace
4solace
Yup, ditto.......
serenityha
serenityha
dear, dear jc, i'm so sorry. tough times do seem to be going around. you know it's been bothering me about others as much as myself. one thought is that as we get to know each other, we lower our barriers.

you are such a real and rare a person, please don't crawl into a hole. i've had 3 good hours today and i feel it creeping quickly after just getting started. you have picked me up so many times, so i owe you by my account in a big way.

it's a struggle at best, a fight and a battle, but you can just take a step back and give yourself a break. i am here for you. i'm a phone call away. while i can move, i'm going to plant flowers seeds in hopes of seeing some blooms and think of you.
honor435
honor435
I also shut myself off from people, not all the time, but I think it is common for us cp ers,do you feel very depressed, do you take any thing for that? or considered it? Sometimes antidepressants can also help with pain. Take care.
immarcie
immarcie
You must have been reading my mind this a.m.....I was trying to find a way to let everyone here know I do care and my heart goes out to them yet I feel paralyzed by the pain and accompanying depression.

You've reached out so many times to everyone here, me included....

I hope and pray you will find the strength to pour your heart out...it might help ease the stress. We all know that feeling, seems a lot of us are going through it to one extent or another.

I pray you will be lifted from the intensity of all you are going through right now....

((((((((((((((gentle hugs))))))))))))
cherrychanga
cherrychanga
Ya know...you don't have to be everything to everybody!

I know you suffer more than many of us here, but you never start the day with a 'poor me' thread. You don't look for attention or wail that you can't stand it, anymore.

Let out a good scream that can be heard by everyone...you've earned it, girlfriend!

Big hugs...
Cherry
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i love you
RaggedyAndee
RaggedyAndee
Hey jc, I get it (I think). Been beaten up a lot lately by pain and emotion - I just don't know if I have anything to add here, or any fight left either. Sometimes it feels like I just don't fit, even here. (real life is worse!)

But I vote we forget it all and just hop on a couple of lazy river rafts and float awhile in the sun... We can just be, and not have to say or do. Just watch clouds, name the animals we see in 'em lol. At the end of the excursion we can have a catered picnic. Maybe a concert too...

Not making light of anything. Sometimes distractions are what we need. You are a special person. I care.

Hugs,
raggedy
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think it's instinct to withdraw when we're at our worst. I've been doing it too. I'm so glad you were able to articulate how you're feeling to us. You give so much here to all of us, just remember we're here for you, too.

I wish I could just walk on over to your house in Arkansas and just give you the biggest, longest hug I've got. I'm sure there'd be a long line.

Love you lots
Theresa Jo
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deleted_user
JC I think you just have a very big heart. I love you for that but also sometimes you need to just read and send out positive thoughts. We always feel them No words or writing involved. Just send out the thoughts. I know someone did for me cause my head is better.

Yes I agree sometimes there are no words. That is when my imagination goes on vacation to the beach or on the cruise ship with the waves of the ocean and the sun's rays and the fresh sea air.

love and peace
hippy
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deleted_user
I am overwhelmed by my pain and by the pain I read about on this board. It is overwhelming. :( Cindy
Dixe4me
Dixe4me
(((((HUGS)))))