I agree with those who say GO GO GO to the E.R. You don't need anyones permission no matter WHAT the circumstances are! You can't get a handle on this pain without taking the 1st step yourself. No one deserves to suffer the way you are!!!!!!!! Just GO and know that we all care and keep us posted as to what happens o.k.

Tabby unless you have been judged to be incompetent by a court you do not have a guardian at age 22. Under our current health care rules you would be covered by your parents health care (if they have family coverage) until you are 26. But at 22 you would not need them to be with you and legally they have no right to even know what goes on at the doctor.

Now if your mom is your guardian she has the responsibility to get you care. If you went to the doctor and he didn't listen to your complaints and do some tests then he is wrong. If he did and found nothing then maybe your mom is right and you are imagining things. But in that case you need to be seeing a therapist to work on your problems.

Tabby dear, I'm sorry to have to say this, but the more and the louder you complain of pain, THE LESS people seem to pay attention.

If you complain every day for years that you are in pain 24/7, it's natural for people (yes, even mom) to tune you out.

I recommend to you that you stop complaining of pain, EVEN IF YOU ARE IN PAIN. After a year or two of no pain complaints, your pleas for relief just may be heard. Remember the story of the boy who cried wolf. You don't want to be treated like he was, so give it a rest.

You can come here to tell US of your pain and we will listen.

Tabby I really struggled on weather on not I should say this but why would your mom think that?

Did you start to complain after your friend got sick. I know you said your mom is your legal guardian and if you need one at your age then there is probably an issue and if that is the case maybe she has some merit I know when we think of something enough we will actually believe it. You may actually feel the pain and I think you may want to sit down and really consider it may be in your head if nothing else to rule it out if that is the case.

Maybe not complain for a few months and then tell her she may take you more seriously and take you in to the doctor and then have him run some test and go from there as she already thinks this and is not going to change her mind. So use that to your advantage somehow.

I started complaining after my friend got sick But I am not faking. I am in pain.

What about asking your mom to see a counsellor or psychologist? If you could at least talk about this to another adult, maybe you could move out of this stuck situation? and get some help.
Just a thought.
I really hope you can find someone who can help you. It's awful to be alone with no one believing our pain.
I send you a warm loving hug,
Ama

Tabitha,

If you have pain and your mom wont let you get the medical help you need the best thing for you to do is call the women's crisis center in Louisville. the phone 502-581-7200. They are there 24/7 to talk with you anytime. If your moms not giving you the care you need then please call them. You had mentioned on the last post for your new years resolution was to call them and get help. Please Get It Before Its Too Late. Hugs 2 U

I am sorry that you are hurting... Its a terrible thing to think that no one believes you about something like that--- and sorry to say its not that uncommon.

Please go be seen by a doc.... are you over 18 yrs old? (Your profile says you're 22) you dont need your mom to believe you. You are legally an adult @18.

Good luck hun... I hope you feel better!

Thanks A Lot pugglemom2011 your the best. I put the number in my phone.

If I ask my mom about going to get help she will say no She says That I don't need help Thats why I am going to call the crisis center because I can't keep going on like this. The stress and fighting all of the time is causing me to get sick

It could very well be stomach ulcers, especially if the stress makes it worse. Ulcers can be serious thing. A gynecologist would be able to rule out ovarian cysts, too. Those things are horrible.

I was a social worker for many years and guardianship does not give your mother the right to neglect your medical care. And that's what she is doing, neglecting you. Now, she can make certain medical decisions for you but the state can ALWAYS intervene if a doctor says that those decisions are not in your best interest.

Even without your mother you can still go to the doctor. Call them, make an appointment, have a friend take your or get a taxi, and go. Then go from there. I think you might be a little confused as to how guardianship works. It has even less restrictions on you than when you were a minor and your parents were legally responsible for you.

If you feel like you need healthcare and your mother isn't getting you the help you need (physically or mentally) then the terms of the guardianship need to be changed. You should be coming up for review soon anyway since guardianship doesn't last forever and can eventually be removed. You were placed there because the courts determined that your mother could make the decisions for your livelihood better than you could. If you feel like she's not then this needs to be brought to someone's attention.

Rather than calling the women's crisis center I would call your social worker. (You do have one, even if you might not know it.) You can also call APS-Adult Protective Services.

Not only was I social worker for many years but, like you, I live i Kentucky so I have a good understanding of how our system works.

what is the fighting all about. If your guardian is not treating you right then you need to seek the help asap. That is not good at all for your health. Please call them so they can help you. Don't be scared to because that's what they are there for. Keep us updated. hugs 2 u

The fighting is between my mom and me. we fight and argue all of the time I try and sit down to talk to her to tell her how I am feeling and she starts yelling at me She won't let me have friends She says that I am just faking being in pain I told her I needed to get help for my issues she said no you just want to be like hollly. I said mom Please listen to me. I am going through hell right now you don't even understand what I have been through. or what I am going through right now. I am in so much pain that I can't sleep at night I wake up screaming in pain. I am trying so hard to be strong but I just can't be strong anymore I am so stressed out My family does not understand and they never will I just wish that pugglemom could make my pain go away Shes the only one that knows and understands what I am going through I just don't know what to do anymore

I dont know if I am stepping over a line here but is your mom having any mental problems? I dont mean that in a negative way but does she suffer from anything even depression that she would be acting this way. Do you live with your dad also or is it just you and mom?

It sounds like if she keeps on saying no you are not in pain then you are not and she does not have to deal with it. I have kids and if one of them was in pain and even if I thought they were making it up I would take them to the doctor and have every test to man and then even then I would not say that to them.

So that is why I ask as she is not acting like she should

Shes under a lot of stress right now because shes caring for my 91 year old grandma but shes done this to me before I am getting sick and tired of her treating me like this. She lets my brother do anything that he wants but she gets after me and my sister My sister ended up in the mental hospital then she went to jail for awhile because she could not deal with my mom and all of the fighting . If it does not stop Thats where I am going to end up