Tabby why don't you just go to the ER? You are 22 yet you seem to allow your mom to make decisions for you. I just don't understand.

I understand. No one litens to my pain, It's invisable. i'm sure they think I'm faking it. What's wrong?

i would agree that you should go to an ER and get to the bottom of this, You are a full fledged adult so you can go ahead and do this for yourself!!!

even if your parent or guardian is carrying your insurance policy you can still go to the doctors that you choose to go to under your plan. the first step is to make an appointment for yourself and find a way to see your general practitioner (or free or low-pay clinic) and get seen.

explain symptoms, ask for testing (mri - xray - endo - blood..whatever they're passing out.) ask for pain treatment. when or if denied ask for referral to pain management physician or find one in network and repeat steps.

for more information on finding pain practitioners in your area google the american pain foundation (http://www.painfoundation.org/) read it and search. if money is an issue call all of them and see if any work on sliding scales.

absolutely 0% mom (or anyone else except maybe a taxi or bus driver) required for all of this.

please get help for yourself. no one else can do it for you! you'll always be your own most vested and best advocate.

with care,
jen

I totally agree with ev1 take control of your health darlin. Just go.

WHAT SHES NOT TELLING YOU ALL IS HER MOM HAS LEGAL GUARDIANSHIP OVER HER........SHE CAN'T MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS

some parents by way of new laws can extend health care to minor children until the age of 24, her issue may be that since her mother is the policy holder she may lack the privacy she desires...

it's just a shot in the dark, i don't know her. what's with the yelling?

she's clearly got some barrier to the health care she needs or she wouldn't have posted this.

relax, i'm trying to be nice, twit.

-jen

Even when I was a minor I was still able to make doctors' appointments and get myself there. When I had an ovarian cyst rupture at the age of 16 and was home alone I called a friend who took me to the ER. It can be done.

I'm all for venting about pain and asking for advice but at some point you've got to take some steps to do something about it.

So eager we be to help or hurt. So slow we be to understand. How many factors are in play here other than the "Mom" variable? Other than pains of the flesh just as deadly and detrimental are those born of long held patterns of dependency and I did write to her and did invite her to open up as we all hurt from heart, we all hurt from anger, we all hurt from some organic causation but until we understand what is meant by her "Hurt" then what can be done. Angst can dig in as deep as any tumor and fester and lead to actual illness within physicality, terror can tear a number of systems apart and cause the breakdown of function(s) both of psych and phys manifestations. Pray if you pray, stay alert for when she does give the slightest sign of a wish to open up further whether it be in forum or personal communiques. We all have suffered the worst thing in our lives. We all have come just short of...enough. We all make mistakes and perhaps in here, perhaps she finds one with just the right approach to blossom her complete truth of that which ails and if not seen, if not responded to in just the right manner for her who of us knows what loss may result. We al are all the ages we have ever been and react to variant stimulae from those points in our lives, I do hope a healing does come to her, a hope does find her path and follow long enough to catch up. Life is a crap shoot no matter how you look at it. The "Boy" in the back room that just turned 42 and Mom does his laundry. So many hindrances we have faced and some have failed to conquer, some stay stuck like learning a piece of music, stopping each time at that one change and returning to do it all over again. I would hope those of you who have made contact gently (Did MM say Gently?) ease her out when it is her time not ours. Bless her heart. She has made these steps to get this far and maybe will retreat then start again only to retreat. Many of us do that all our given lives never realizing our full potentials. If Eskimos have so many words for snow and we have but one word for pain, one word for Love such be the chance that so much can slip by us. Keep you eyes and hearts open to this timid creature less she return to that back room and n'er venture out again. "Mother" stirs up as many images of fond as it does of fright, I was one of the lucky ones, may even just one of you/us make that connection, that fit that suits her and makes way for her to find a path towards her healthier place, then we are all so blessed.

Tabby, I am so sorry you are feeling so bad and so alone.

Go see a doctor, there has to be a reason you are in sooo much pain. Can yo go get yourself some sought of pain relief from the Drug store?

When our pain is chronic and we have been complaining to the same person for so long and there has been no solutions and treatments from the doctor as to fix the problem. Then sometimes our caregivers just try to ignore our cries as what can they do they have been down that road before and going to the ER or doctors do not fix the problem so they tune off their ears as nothing has been done.

I am sorry I dont have a answer for you as I was a adult when my CP came into my life so I just took care of my self and not relayed on my mom taking me to the doctor or ER the only thing I can think of is go to who ever is in your life and ask for help if you have not before.

Do you tell her on a day or weekly basis that you are in pain and hurt and ask for her help? it is one of those situations that she may be so used to you saying it she no longer hears your cries.

Manny, you are definitely right. I, too, have been down that road where doctors have a hard time listening. It is unbelievably frustrating and overwhelming to even know where to start. However, I've also had tests to try to determine where the pain is coming from. Tabby has posted multiple times that she's had this pain for a long time yet she has not had any tests performed to determined the cause. At this point, she either needs to take a new approach or find new doctors. In addition, she has a history of not being truthful on the boards, going to the point of pretending to be pregnant and giving birth to illicit sympathy from other members. So while I believe her pain is probably real, given that she has posted about it on multiple occasions, at this point the best advice is to encourage her to actually go to a doctor to find the root of it. An endoscopy, pelvic exam, ultrasound, pap smear...these have all been suggested on multiple boards. I think a lot of us are kind of unsure as to where to go at this point. Encouraging her to find someone in the medical field who will listen is about the only advice we can give.

Tabby if you have not had any tests performed then that is the first step to do. If you are reaching out for help by telling some stories then that is a different kind of help that you need, but help all the same I guess.

If your caregiver is not listening to you or abusing you by refusing you health which I doubt but I am not sure then you need to find help from somewhere else. I thought also you had a baby and in a way I am glad if that is not true as you need to help you before you can help a baby.

My mom is my legal Gaurdian I caaanot get seen by a docor unless She says I can I can't do anything unless my mom says I can. She told my docor the last time I was in that I am just faking and acting like I am in pain because my best friend is having a lot of health problems and my mom told my docor She wants to be sick like her friend. Thats all her problem is I told my mom That I am hurting and all she says you just want to be like holly.