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So I"m going to get this off my chest....
I realize there are folks on this Site who don't have good Dr.'s, and the empathy I feel for these folks are as real as it gets. I hate that not everyone who needs a great Dr. to help them through these difficult diagnosises, has one.
Unfortunately when a person has a bad Dr. and chooses to post about it here, it generally turns into a negative rant about all Dr.'s/Nurses/Clinics/Hospitals, the whole medical community.
After finishing re-newing my Healthcare.gov Insurance I noticed that my main Dr. wasn't covered anymore. I didn't panic, I just made a note to ask her about it today when I was there for my monthly appt. I asked her, and got the answer I expedted, they'er too small of a practice to afford the BCBS premiums. What she did next, is 50% of why I love her so much and why I've been her patient for 17 years. She said, "So now we have to get your ducks in a row before the end of the month and your policy changes. Help me think of any and all blood labs you need and we'll do them today. What about your liver/kidney Ultrasounds, is it time for them? I said, they're do in January. She said, "we'll do them this month so their paid for easily. Then she pulled up med list on her Computer and said, "Okay lets order any meds that we can get 3 months supply for. Because she knows my meds have been free since August. The last thing she did as I was checking out of the office, was to come up to the counter and tell her nurse to have me come in on the 30th of Dec. instead of my normal Jan. 5 date, so I could save some money and use my $5 copay 1 more time.
She automatically went into, "Help the patient as much as humanly possible" mode. I didn't have to ask or bargain or beg. And then we went over how I'll be paying them a cash price startig January and what I could afford for a cash price, so we settled at $50/month.
My point here is very simple...there are bad Dr.'s in the world...but there are also so many great Dr.'s out there, ones who do whatever they can for their patients. Ones who go the extra mile every day of the week, for their patients.
As someone who used to work in the Medical field,it can be very difficult to listen to the "all Dr.'s are eveil" or 'all hospitals are just out ot get money and treat you badly" Utilizing Support Boards like this one offers advantages, but you know you'll have to put up with a lot of Dr. bashing all the time. And sometimes it can be hard to listen to it without the other side, the positive side. There are many good Dr.'s out there, I've worked with quite a few, I've been treated by many and I have a great team of them currently.
So that's it, just wanted to get that out of my head and off my mind.
******This was not meant to anger or offend anyone. If it does, pls. just ignore it.
Peace and low pain to all.
I realize there are folks on this Site who don't have good Dr.'s, and the empathy I feel for these folks are as real as it gets. I hate that not everyone who needs a great Dr. to help them through these difficult diagnosises, has one.
Unfortunately when a person has a bad Dr. and chooses to post about it here, it generally turns into a negative rant about all Dr.'s/Nurses/Clinics/Hospitals, the whole medical community.
After finishing re-newing my Healthcare.gov Insurance I noticed that my main Dr. wasn't covered anymore. I didn't panic, I just made a note to ask her about it today when I was there for my monthly appt. I asked her, and got the answer I expedted, they'er too small of a practice to afford the BCBS premiums. What she did next, is 50% of why I love her so much and why I've been her patient for 17 years. She said, "So now we have to get your ducks in a row before the end of the month and your policy changes. Help me think of any and all blood labs you need and we'll do them today. What about your liver/kidney Ultrasounds, is it time for them? I said, they're do in January. She said, "we'll do them this month so their paid for easily. Then she pulled up med list on her Computer and said, "Okay lets order any meds that we can get 3 months supply for. Because she knows my meds have been free since August. The last thing she did as I was checking out of the office, was to come up to the counter and tell her nurse to have me come in on the 30th of Dec. instead of my normal Jan. 5 date, so I could save some money and use my $5 copay 1 more time.
She automatically went into, "Help the patient as much as humanly possible" mode. I didn't have to ask or bargain or beg. And then we went over how I'll be paying them a cash price startig January and what I could afford for a cash price, so we settled at $50/month.
My point here is very simple...there are bad Dr.'s in the world...but there are also so many great Dr.'s out there, ones who do whatever they can for their patients. Ones who go the extra mile every day of the week, for their patients.
As someone who used to work in the Medical field,it can be very difficult to listen to the "all Dr.'s are eveil" or 'all hospitals are just out ot get money and treat you badly" Utilizing Support Boards like this one offers advantages, but you know you'll have to put up with a lot of Dr. bashing all the time. And sometimes it can be hard to listen to it without the other side, the positive side. There are many good Dr.'s out there, I've worked with quite a few, I've been treated by many and I have a great team of them currently.
So that's it, just wanted to get that out of my head and off my mind.
******This was not meant to anger or offend anyone. If it does, pls. just ignore it.
Peace and low pain to all.
Sexual assault is a horrible experience and the "victim blaming," is still quite common...too common. Hopefully this sentiment changes.
(((HUGS)))
Thank you. Sexual assault is one of the few felonies where the VICTIM is STILL put on trial by nearly everyone - forever.
TO this day, people will make rude remarks when I am wearing long underwear AND a turtleneck sweater under the button down shirt. And clearly even HERE I am simply expected to share details that might violate my anonymity.
Victims of other felonious assaults are simply shown compassionate mercy. It is a nightmare that just keeps victimizing.
Thank you for your compassion.
It's part of the rape culture in our society. Victim blaming is a horrible thing to do. But lets be totally clear about something, you were under NO OBLIGATION to even report the assault. And if you didn't, and your answer on here was that you didn't report it, that doesn't mean it didn't happen. Many women feel victimized a second time by going through the process of reporting and going through the courts, and they just don't want to go through that. I don't blame them at all.
I'm sorry if you felt you weren't believed in this thread. No one should make you feel that way after going through what you went through. I just wanted to tell you that there are people on here that believe you and would support you.
Yvette
I'm not sure I would report an assault or sexual assault. I didn't report my ex for hitting me.
There are lots of factors in play cultural especially.
Sorry for your suffering Brightside.
It's hard to say what one would do in that situation. But whatever the decision, that person should be supported by those around them, no matter what it is. There is no duty to report. And no one should be made to feel less than if they decide not to.
I understand that you didn't report your ex, and if I couldn't get you to call the cops, I would have just urged you to get the hell out of there ASAP.
I'm no pushover by any means but it made no financial sense for one thing- my ex earned the money at the time and him losing his job would have been even more suffering.
I also felt strongly I had to handle things myself- it was private.
Concerning drs 'just do this' or 'just do that' is pretty laughable when options are limited...in some ways I think it would do Americans good to have an extreme right wing government dismantle Medicare and medicaid- those people affected would at least learn some empathy for what some of us have been going through! And I doubt they'd be quite so sanguine if it were happening to them either.
Kudos to those people who do understand.
My emphasis was did you report it? Because this is how the bad Dr.'s get away with continuing to be awful Dr.'s and hurting patients instead of helping them....they count on the fact that people won't report them, or file charges with the police, they count on their "position" and the "our word against theirs" being threatening enough that the patient just won't do anything about it. And that's how they are able to continue to get away with hurting patients over and over again.....until someone stands up and does something about it, it won't stop.
The same with the hospital staff that treated you so poorly, did you report them to the Hospital ethics Board or Patient Advocate? Because unless folks report these things, it doesn't change. It's up to the patients to report bad treatment or things won't won't ever change and those places will continue to be bad at what they do.
One thing I want to clear up, because I'm tired of it being said in this Thread. I did not once in my O.P. say that people could not complain about their bad Dr.'s. It's a Support Board anyone can whine, gripe, groan or grouch about whatever they want. I don't have the power to tell anyone any different. My Post is about my opinion that Dr.s who are good and do great jobs don't get the accolades they deserve compared to the bad Dr.'s who always get talked about and give a bad rep to the whole profession. So I'd really appreciate if you and others would not twist my words.
This Post was my Thoughts and my Opinions about my Dr.'s and the great job they do and it was about how I feel and am affected by reading frequently about bad Dr.'s and how 1 can be translated into the whole medical field.
I am allowed to post my Opinons, just like everyone else on this Board posts theirs. I included a sentence at the end of the post that was very clear, it said, "******This was not meant to anger or offend anyone. If it does, pls. just ignore it." So if people don't like it, I'd suggest they do that, because it was not meant as an argumentative post.
Take care,
How the Hell are ya?
Hugs
jc
Lol, couldn't resist.
Of all the medical professionals I see, I know my dermatologist, psychiatrist, and therapist are genuinely interested in helping me. I'd love to have any one of them manage my CP but...they don't do that so...I'm REALLY hoping the VA ortho I see has a good treatment plan.
Hey gal, I'm still hanging in by my toenails! lol Can't believe this year has gone by and trying to figure out how I missed it! These days its all about keeping infections to a minimum, organ swelling to a minimum and pain from going over the edge.....
Hope your doing well my friend! I've missed ya!!!
I have met far more unpleasant, egotistical doctors than kind, helpful ones. I try to keep communication to the point. I pray that my care is helpful. I have found myself to be in extreme pain on too many occasions. Pain treatment is available why is it not utilized? I have had the same surgery twice. The first time things were manageable the second the pain extreme. What was the difference? The surgeon's attitude to pain relief. I fear pain, therefore I fear doctors and surgery. It doesn't have to be this way.
I think it's for-profit medicine I really do. Drs are in it for the wrong reason, cash.
Sorry you are having a tough time. It's hard being ill.