Chronic Pain Support Group
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I had this post all written and lost it grrrrrrrrr!
Anyway I'm having a real issue with the rampage nurse nazi went on yesterday. She kept saying, insisting really, 'People DO get better, they do" So, what, am I doing something wrong? Every doctor I've been to has told me I'm doing great, I'm doing everything right and yet I'm still in daily chronic pain.
This nurse just seems to have a pick on me. The only thing she can rightly get me on is that I have not lost any weight - BUT, I haven't gained any either. and considering the stress I've been under with no income for a whole year, pain every day, depression and the medication I'm on I think I did well not to gain. She gets on my case about how even people with low income can lose weight, she has patients who have done it. Well I say "Good for them" She even said she put herself on what she called a 'poor man's diet' and lost 10 pounds in less than 2 weeks. I told her I haven't gone grocery shopping since October... and not just me, my bf hasn't either. We have been dependent on the food bank and a very little budget for staples.
Then she gets on my case about my insurance troubles with LTD. She makes it sound like its all my fault that it has taken so long to get things going. I called repeatedly and did everything I knew to do, its not like I've ever done this before. I didn't know my MP could help me until she told me in December - why did she wait so long to tell me?
So its all my fault I had no money for a year, its all my fault I'm not losing weight and its all my fault that I'm in pain... at least that's the way she tells it - but only when the doctor isn't in. hmmmmmm? I think somebody goes on a power trip when she's in charge of the office. I try not to let her get to me but its so hard. She does her best to make me feel like a heel. I think I need to talk to the doctor about her, I can't stand her doing this any longer. She was good for a while, even acknowledged that she was hard on me one time, but then she does it again just when I thought it was over.
To top it off bf is away this week so I had no one to talk to when I got home and I was fuming. I really need to find some IRL friends. DS is great but everyone needs someone to talk to face to face sometimes.
Thanks for letting me rant and please, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I didn't post this to get pity or negative feedback, just need to get this off my chest and I know there are many here who support me when I need it. Love and hugs to all,
ssLisa
Anyway I'm having a real issue with the rampage nurse nazi went on yesterday. She kept saying, insisting really, 'People DO get better, they do" So, what, am I doing something wrong? Every doctor I've been to has told me I'm doing great, I'm doing everything right and yet I'm still in daily chronic pain.
This nurse just seems to have a pick on me. The only thing she can rightly get me on is that I have not lost any weight - BUT, I haven't gained any either. and considering the stress I've been under with no income for a whole year, pain every day, depression and the medication I'm on I think I did well not to gain. She gets on my case about how even people with low income can lose weight, she has patients who have done it. Well I say "Good for them" She even said she put herself on what she called a 'poor man's diet' and lost 10 pounds in less than 2 weeks. I told her I haven't gone grocery shopping since October... and not just me, my bf hasn't either. We have been dependent on the food bank and a very little budget for staples.
Then she gets on my case about my insurance troubles with LTD. She makes it sound like its all my fault that it has taken so long to get things going. I called repeatedly and did everything I knew to do, its not like I've ever done this before. I didn't know my MP could help me until she told me in December - why did she wait so long to tell me?
So its all my fault I had no money for a year, its all my fault I'm not losing weight and its all my fault that I'm in pain... at least that's the way she tells it - but only when the doctor isn't in. hmmmmmm? I think somebody goes on a power trip when she's in charge of the office. I try not to let her get to me but its so hard. She does her best to make me feel like a heel. I think I need to talk to the doctor about her, I can't stand her doing this any longer. She was good for a while, even acknowledged that she was hard on me one time, but then she does it again just when I thought it was over.
To top it off bf is away this week so I had no one to talk to when I got home and I was fuming. I really need to find some IRL friends. DS is great but everyone needs someone to talk to face to face sometimes.
Thanks for letting me rant and please, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I didn't post this to get pity or negative feedback, just need to get this off my chest and I know there are many here who support me when I need it. Love and hugs to all,
ssLisa
Unfortunately, there are nasty people in this world who can't be nice to people. This nurse is one of those people who really don't belong being a nurse and should find some other profession. Have you complained to your.Dr. about her or to the nursing supervisor. I've had to do this a.few times when i've been treated badly. I won't tolerate it and neither should you, or anybody for that matter.
I've seen them treat people so poorly, especially the elderly, or overweight as I was most of my life. I finally realized I had to be my own advocate, being alone, I don't have anyone fighting for me or my rights, but me. So now I speak up or write letters and don't allow anyone, nurse, doctor, etc. to treat me poorly ever.
I'm very sorry you had to endure any of this. It's not enough that you're in pain, out of work, depending on food bank for nutrition, they need to make you feel worse about weight of all things. I was 289 lbs till i.was 40 years old and experienced comments frequently. The way I looked at it, not everyone is suppose to be tiny. I tried losing weight many, many times and would lose, gain, lose. I finally stoppes.worrying so much about it. After all with all of my medical problems, I couldn't really exercise or walk for that matter. Anyways, I joined weight watchers again when I was 40 and for some reason, it finally worked and I lost over 100 lbs. If I didn't I would still be heavy, but would never allow someone give me crap about it. I didn't have trick mirrors in my house. I knew how big I was but if I wasn't ready.to lose the weight and change my lifestyle, it wouldn't have worked and that would have been fine with me. Something just clicked for me that time, and I lost it. Im still in pain and will be for the rest of my life. The weight loss is not a cure all. So please don't ever let anyone put you down or talk to you like it's your fault, because it's not.
Hugs,
Mary Ellen
She is in no position to control patients! You are paying her salary.
I've been thinking about doing a diet that delivers the healthy food to eat daily. Financially I'm not sure I can handle the cost. Being over weight just makes the pain worse.
We can encourage each other to keep trying daily.
Healing hugs
Don't let some bit.. ruin your great news. It's your doctor that needs to order that test not Nazi nurse. Put on your shitkickers! lol
I'm tired of hearing about how people that live in pain are suppose to lose weight! How can you get the exercise you need? Diet isn't about food it is a meal and exercise plan! Just another way of insulting chronic pain people!
I am here my friend for you always :)
Love and hugs,
Toni
I am very sorry you were treated so horribly by this monstrosity of a human that has the audacity to call herself a nurse. I worked as a nurse for 16 years and showed great compassion to patients and people with chronic pain bc I suffered myself. It hits a raw nerve to read about this behavior bc it's true; ignorance exists in the medical community still unfortunately and I worked around it and deal with it personally. Bottom line is the patient is always right and your pain is what you say it is. If you do not like her behavior please report it so that others coming behind you do not have to endure her ignorance. Fight for your rights!! You are very important and do not deserve to be treated this way! Gentle hugs to you hun...
Hope you get the help you need without Miss Nazi Nurse.
Joanne
Apparently DS's last 'upgrade' messed up notifications again. Here I was thinking no one responded to my post because I didn't get any notices. I am so thankful for all the comments and to know I have this kind of support here. I'd be lost without DS since I don't have any friends around here to talk to . Thanks again everyone, I'll see what I can do about this. Big hugs and peace,
ssLisa
Posts are also disappearing.
I'm sorry one dumbass ruined your day.
Try not to give her any more space in your head.
Hugs
jc
if nazi nurse wants to help, she can bring you healthy food instead of belittling you.
I can't tell you how much this upsets me. I was a RN for 17 years before becoming disabled and I never once lectured someone about losing weight or anything else.
Is she a nurse practitioner? If not, she's legally not allowed to say the things she said to you. Even ..if she is a NP, she showed no compassion and certainly didn't help by making the ideas she had for you. She is not a doctor, no matter if she has a MSN or not.
You must, must, must tell your doctor about her behavior. I'm sure you're not the only one she's doing this to and it needs to stop. You're doctor is going to lose patients if she gives this attitude to his patients.
And a "poor man's diet"? What the hell is that? Drs. recommend weight watchers usually. The nurse shouldn't be giving nutritional advice based on her own past experience. I lost 47lbs on WW's and kept it off for 10 years until I got pregnant with Conor and my lupus went berserk. Was on high-dose prednisone for years and along with Lyrica, it made me gain over 100lbs and is now making it harder to lose weight now that I'm back on WW's.
You should also report her to your state's board of nursing. She overstepped her bounds of realm of practice and should be at least fined for it.
Some nurses, especially with advanced degrees, get a big head and think they're the end all and be all of medicine.
When you make your next appt., be sure to ask for a date when you'll be able to see your doctor, not the nurse That way, even if she's there, you can ignore her and tell her to just shut up. You're there to see the doctor not the nurse. You can do it in a kinder way that just saying "shut up" but that's the only thing I can think of right now.
You should also call her on her behavior. Tell her who much her words hurt you and they have no value to you. If she's so concerned about your health or money issues, then maybe she should come up with something more productive- like finding you help in getting food, or ways to exercise when you're disabled
Sorry for my rant too, but it really pisses me off when I hear about nurses having bad atttitudes. Remember, she and your doctor are YOUR employees- you pay them and deserve the best treatment. if the behavior doesn't change after you talk to her and your doctor, then I suggest you find another doctor. I changed PCPs recently because of my doctor's office staff. Now I've found a wonderful doctor with a kind and friendly staff. They do exist!
Sandy