Gently, please. Clearly there's a problem here with this very young person.

Yes i think Tabby has some issues and I would like to help I really would and I plead with her just to be honest and maybe we can help. I know that sometimes people have problems and they can not help it. I recently had a friend Message me and showed me a different way of looking at things not through my eyes but through eyes of that not all people are ok and have some special problems to be patient so I am trying I really am.

So I thank them for that

Tabby I know that you said some things and lets start from here and just go from here and see if we can figure it out there may not be a answer but at least you can get some support.

Okay I will start telling the truth I did have a pap smear a year ago But I have not had one since I told my mom that I am never going to get another one because it hurt to bad the last time My mom keeps saying that I need to get another one but I just can't I will only get one if my best friend Holly goes with me I can't go though it with out her.

Ok great, Pap smears are painful and I have had quite a few and they still are uncomfortable but the pain for those few minutes out weigh the the chance that something can be wrong and will be missed because of you not getting one just because of the pain. Think of it this way it takes longer to get undressed then it does to get a pap smear so for as long as you can sing half of the birthday song you will be done.

Now on to Holly, You can not rely on this girl for things like this you are to dependent on her if you will ONLY get a pap if she is there. You should just grow up a bit and go as these things need to be done. You can talk to her before and after for some support but she really should not be in there that would be uncomfortable for you both. I would not even bring my hubby in there with me.

Now is this why your mom does not want you to hang around holly as then you feel you have to do everything with her or not do it at all. I think your mom is right as you can not be so dependent on her you need to be your own person.

thanks for being honest

Yes I am very dependent on holly but theres a reason one of our fiend that we used to go to high school she died back in 2007 well our softmore year she left to go live with her grandma The last thing. she said was Tabitha you take care of holly and don't let anything bad happen to her okay I told her I Promise then our friend told holly you take care of tabitha don't let anything bad happen to her. Holly promised Now were both suffering and we can be there for each other. Our friend jenny is so mad at me and her because we broke her promise thats whty were suffering in pain. and it all my moms fauult for breaking up our friendship

Ok but making a promise as a high school student has nothing to do with getting a pap smear. That is not what the promise if for and as far as the promise goes it only means as much as you make it. It does not mean you have to do everything together it just means you will be good to each other. It did not mean literally take care of each other

What does the friend dieing have to do with the friend being mad as the friend that died is not the friend you made the promise to.

Oh crap I am back in high school LOL

Our friend that died is the one that we made the promise to I feel like i am letting jenny down because I am not there for holly

i just wrote three paragraphs and erased them.

someone please, give me a high five.

-jen

High five!

brokenyolk, I admire your reserve.

Tabby when you said Jenny is mad I thought she was still here as if she died it would of been she would of been mad at us, Not a big deal just a typo.

It is a pap smear not a brain scan so just make an appt and go get one. It is not smart for women not to get a yearly check up that includes a pap.