As most of you are aware after 20 months of estrangement my daughter and I were recently reunited.

The background is that she met a man on the internet and up and left with no warning. She moved out of the house I was renting to her leaving behind most of her belongings. She had $9K in cash (her life savings) and a 2011 Toyota RAV4 that was paid off. Today she is $8K in debt, drives a used car and she just had a baby.

The man who is baby daddy lives in Canada and cannot cross the border at will. He is 40 years old, has two children and is on disability. He also gets a military pension.

When she first left I did send some emails telling her I didn't understand her decision. I compared her new bf to her old loser bf. (yes, she knows how to pick them) This is one of them:

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You asked me not to contact you so I haven’t. I mailed the package that you received to you more than two weeks ago and you never even bothered to tell me you got it. Family use to be so important to you. Now you have virtually cut-off all ties to everyone in the family. Regardless of what you may think there isn’t anyone in your family that approves of this relationship. Your inheritance will likely be at risk soon.

You are willing to sacrifice everything for this man that you are still getting to know. It blew my mind that you would walk away from the security of a job, comfort of family and all of your worldly possessions to be with this man. Granted, he seem to be your knight in shining armor putting you up on a pedestal. I have news for you …. There are plenty of men that would have appreciated you more than Johnny did and would do anything for you.

It makes me sick to think that this is what you have settled for. Life with Kevin isn’t at all what you described to me to be in your dreams. The way I see it there is little difference between Kevin and Johnny. Johnny was a go no-where 28 year old. Kevin is a go no-where 38 year old. Johnny worked part-time, Kevin doesn’t work. Johnny doesn’t have kids, Kevin has two. Johnny is an American citizen, Kevin is Canadian. Maybe if I knew more about him and you didn’t take off the way you did I would see this differently but according to you - - he doesn’t drive, doesn’t work, rents an apartment and collects money from the Canadian Government, not exactly a winner.

You have always been the rescuer. Unfortunately, it is now at the risk of fulfilling your own dreams. I may not supportive of this relationship but if you ever found yourself in trouble, you can still call me.

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Today I got a FaceBook message from my daughter..... "I want to ask you a favor, I don't know if you'll do it or not. I was talking to Kevin about alot of things, and with some of the things you've said or done in the past in regards to putting him down in emails and other stuff, he was saying if you'd apologize than he'd give you a second chance, which would be good because he's not one to forgive or forget. That's the only favor I ask of you if your willing to do that."

Help, how do I respond??? I know how I want to respond but I understand it would not benefit anyone.

Thanks for taking the time to read this really long message!