Child Support & Custody Support Group
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I for one just would like to voice my opinion about the so-called stimulus check. All qualifying individuals get to enjoy this rebate (which is supposedly to jump start the economy) except for the ones who owe child support. Once again, punished for having a hardship. I don't want to hear that if you are behind in child support, then you are a loser and should have to give your left arm to pay it. I have and will still continue to pay back child support on a weekly basis because I was unemployed for six months before finally finding another position. I was lucky to have food on my table during that period (thanks to food banks). I was not sitting at home eating bons bons. I was out there EVERY DAY looking for work. I have had my bank account levied, (which means that I cannot use any bank account while I have an oustanding balance with child support) and my income tax refund was taken. I even called CS to explain my hardship and I was yelled at, they were verbally abusive, degrading, etc. And I called them because I didn't want them to think that I was blowing it off. I will never call again. That CS worker was a complete asshole and made me feel so incompetent. I was already down and out and feeling terrible about losing my job and getting behind every week on support. I was so stressed about this whole situation. Now, my ex is collecting all my refunds, has claimed my son two years in a row so enjoys the extra refund and now he's going to collect his refund, and the stimulus refund for himself, my son and mine. Just doesn't seem fair. I feel like they are kicking me when I'm down. There is no way in hell I'll catch up any time soon. I can really see why some people get so discouraged and end up in jail. (I would never do that purposely) but the system has absolutely no compassion for life's problems that arise. Just venting....
I buy all the diapers, all the shoes, all the clothing, no hand outs here! He doesn't even see them, well only if he can see me too. I am the provider to my children and he makes 6 times what I make in a year... Come on! I'm sorry, everyones situation is different but I have no pity for a dead beat. Damn it, I had to go to work through a temp agency at first just to buy formula for two babies. I had to go on welfare to get health insurance for my kids because their dad dropped them from his. I'm sorry, no he doesn't need his tax refund, if he gets one. He owes that to his kids and guess what, the first thing I am going to buy is a swing set for them so they can play like other kids and new shoes and a lot of diapers!!! He owes his children over 13,000.00. Why won't he pay... because he feels like I can support thwm on my own, because I won't go back to him. You know if you are grown-up enough to make a child....be grown up enough to support it. I'm doing my part... he needs to do his.
So you know what, dont leave and make a new group for dead beat parents.....I will. Good bye and maybe you shouldnt give advise at all because all you do is piss them off.
I was not in anyway trying to be rude to anyone and I am not bitter or angry my ex was an abuser that is why I left him, he didnt leave me, in fact he kidnapped me and held me against my will for a little over 24 hours and Im sure he didnt do that b/c I was rudeBUT what he did to me or I did to him is totally irrelevant herewhat you do to each other is a totally separate matters entirely from paying c/s or not. The child deserves the love and support of both parents regardless of their relationship with each otherI was merely trying to make a pointand that is that just b/c your income stops your childs needs do notand as I said I know that not everyone that owes c/s is a deadbeatmy problem is with the ones that owe it and complain about it when someone HAS to step in and MAKE them pay it just as you need extra income so does the child I am referring to back c/s being paid with extra income not giving all extra income to the childone thing I think you should understand is she did not screw him they screwed each other and you should ask yourself is the only reason he dont want anymore to do with her b/c she got pregnant? What if she hadnt got pregnant would he still be with her? He also knew he didnt want anymore kids so he also should have taken precaution to make sure that didnt happen as well and be prepared to except the responsibility if it did happen I understand you arent the one who screwed up here but my point is you have to be prepared to except the added responsibility HE has put on himself AND you if you choose to stay with himbeing a recipient of c/s when my children were younger AND now that I am raising my g/s no matter what the c/s is used for someone is supporting those children and if not then the legal steps should be taken to make sure the child is properly taken care of trust me it takes a lot more than more that one person can pay to support a child (in most cases)OH by the way my life is not hard right now and I blame no one for what happened to me except my ex who did it and me for allowing it to go on for 7 years before I did anything about itI understand there are two sides to every story but the facts are always the same when people get together regardless of when, where or why and a child is the result that child deserves the support of both parents no matter when, where or whyAGAINI am not trying to be rude I am merely stating facts good luck to ya!
And I am with ashew if you have proof that your husband is not behind in c/s why has he not petitioned the courts to have this matter cleared up if he refuses to take steps to clear up this matter then AGAIN its back on him
Just to let you know granna....we are starting the process of adoption of our grand daughter...shouldn't take as long as I might have thought...which is good....want this over and done with a.s.a.p....can't wait til this is all over with.
wooohooo!