Before I explain what my mother did, I'll give a bit of background. Our youngest daughter has 3 children, ages, 10, 9 and 5. Two years ago our son in law passed away at a hospital. It's been hard for her and her children at times but overall they're doing pretty well.

Over the last week our daughter became ill; she's gone through multiple testing at a hospital in NH but to no avail at finding the cause of her pain. By last Friday morning my husband and I told her to go to a hospital in MA. She did; arrived there at 1:00pm. At 4:00pm my daughter called me to ask if we could pick up the kids at daycare; happily my husband left work to pick them up and take them to our house. I arrived home at 6:00 with still no results of anything from our daughter and by now she's in agony. When I walked in my mother was standing in the kitchen all dressed up with pocketbook ready; (We were supposed to go out to dinner that night). I said, I don't think we're going to be able to go out to dinner; we may have the kids here overnight. She threw her pocketbook across the counter and said, "Oh great, another night ruined because you have to babysit". I responded with, "Firstly she's in a hospital in severe pain and do not either of you mention the fact that she's in a hospital right now to the kids" Course they both nodded their heads in agreement.

I said, we'll just order out, I don't feel like cooking; shortly after that the kids came running in to see me so we're all in the kitchen at this point. My mother disappeared for a few minutes and came back in with her pajamas and robe on. The kids said, Nana, why did you change your clothes already. Her response: "Well we were going out to dinner but we can't now because we have to take care of you since your mother is in the hospital and they can't figure out what's wrong with her"!!!!! (all this in a not very nice tone). The 10 and 9 years olds started crying right away. I couldn't even speak to my mother at this point I was so furious and now I've got little ones that are going to over-react. My mother left the room and went down to her bedroom and shut her door. My husband and I calmed them down and then I went down to her room. She was on the phone with my sister. I said, let's talk; "No, I'm on the phone with E....", I said, then I'll talk; "Don't you ever do something like that to my grandchildren again; you should be absolutely ashamed of yourself, your behavior was absolutely despicable!. If you can't say anything hopeful or encouraging to them, DON'T speak to them period!!!! I walked out.

I've not been able to speak to her since. I don't have anything to say to her. None of us are speaking in the house. She spent Easter dinner giving the same kids dirty looks during the entire meal.

I want nothing to do with this woman right now and I don't know what to do with her. I've never witnessed anything so selfish and down right cruel. It's not that she suffers from Alzeimers or any other debilitating disease that I can blame this on; just plain selfishness.

I don't think I can ever forgive her. This has been a constant temper tantrum whenever she isn't getting her own way; It's okay to go days without speaking to my husband and I, we're used to it by now.

I need some help I think, I can't get past this and right now, I don't want her living with me anymore. There does come a time when you have to throw in the towel..