That can be very stressful. You need help so you can be healthy to help your mom. Can you look into agencies that help a few hours a day? Please get help for yourself.

Hugs to you Wendy. I understand the frustration of having a sibling that doesn't help much. My brother and sister in law doesn't understand how hard it is either. I think for me it's the fact that they think our parents are stronger then they are. And even that I am stronger then I am. Does that sound familer? I find that my one hour a day at the gym has helped my mental being. Sometimes I don't even exercise but just sit in the spa or pool. I have to go at 5am but it's my time. Try to find yourself a little time for yourself. You may find it to be the best time of day and look forward to it each morning.

I am so sorry that you are loaded with stress.

One tool that my wife (a nurse) taught me was to use short statements to get points across; keep the wording simple and keep to the script every time. It can be hard, but if you find words to let your sister know that things are hard this short method may work.

For example: "Mom and dad are not as strong as you think, please spend a weekend with me taking care of them." Or words that are more "you" than Pepperman! Also try to be unemotional when delivering the words you choose. Changing your wording to their responses only gives others "power" to force you into negotiating.

Repeat this when she gives you crap. A good companion phrase is "Until you really spend time helping take care of them please don't tell me how to do it."

Obviously I'm reading a lot into your situation, so I may be off the mark a little. Or a lot. Or WAY OFF! But still, short statements seem to work wonders in emotional situations

Gentle hugs, and I hope you can either get through to your sister, or dismiss the crap she sends your way.

Hi Wendy, I understand that you're feeling isolated, and over burdened...but there are resources to help. There will come a time when you may have to consider an intervention for your mom's care. It may be helpful to share your concerns and frustrations with someone in the medical field, consulting a social worker may also be useful. Prayers are with you.

Hi Wendy! I am sorry to hear you are so stressed out and not getting any help. I have an older brother and sister they help sometimes but I am with my mom helping her most of the time. My sister and brother both work. My sister is working 2 jobs and has a 6 year old daughter to care for. My brother lives a few hours away from us so he comes to visit when he has time off but he is not here to help all of the time. I am retired so I can stay home with mom and care for her. It is tough though because I have health problems and don't always feel good or able to take care of mom like a healthy person can. I am here to talk anytime you want someone to talk to just message me.