Are you saying people think you are weird because you need more healing time?If so I don't think that's weird at all.Everybody is different and needs their own specific amount of rest,medications,etc. when sick.If someone is making you feel uncomfortable about your personal needs then it may be that the person doesn't want to deal with illness.Just being in the hospital itself is exhausting so don't judge yourself just do what you need to do!

Hi

It's the older people, they think my kids should stay 24/7 at the hospital. I don't think thats necessary.

I think people score love by amount of sacrifice another one makes. Not me, I know I'm loved but will not push or abuse that. But if one of my kids is in the hospital I feel I want to stay, but now I can't.

I think everyone is different. For example, when I am sick, I want to be left alone. My husband, on the other hand, calls for me every other minute if he is sick. IMHO.

I don't think your request/actions are weird. I too feel it's a waste of time to sit for hours in a hospital with someone that is being well cared for by the hospital staff, and isn't in emminent danger of dieing.

However, I guess I also believe that if a family member wants to spend their time sitting QUIETLY so that you can rest peacefully without them expecting conversation, and without them texting or making unnessary noise, then it's their time to "waste". If they interfer with your rest, then you should be able to ask them to leave with no hard feelings.

If it's a life and death situation, then my opinion is that one person should be allowed to stay in the room, and all others should be in a waiting room, with family alternating into the patients room.

Hi caring1

That's exactly how I feel, but I'm a chatter box,,,LOL, so when I'm quiet my daughters want to talk. If I'm not talking or joking my kids make that sad," oh my God,mommy is dieing" face , so I rather they leave.

Alma

OMG...i wish my husband could be like you. He's had a ton of hospital stays lately (well...not a ton but four stays in less than 4 months). he wants me there all the time, and it wears me down to the point that even thinking of seeing him in the hospital make me want to throw up. One time he called me at 10:45 at night and begged me to come to the hospital. He was not feeling well, and felt like the staff was not listening to him. I went and did not get home till 1 am. All of his issues could have been handled by the staff......eeeksssss.

I think you made a very good choice - the staff was supposed to take care of you and they should check on you often in case you need something - but I think it's great that you could relieve them of the need to sit there day and night. I spent almost 4 months day and night (never left) in the hospital with my son but it was necessary -- very tiring. Glad you have daughters who are caring enough to stay if you need them!

Kiddo
Oh men!!! My father, whines, screams, fights, sign himself out, he's nearly impossible, but when we leave him alone in the hospital, he behaves well, he loves to torture my mom. He needed a pacemaker, he sign himself out twice. The third time, I spoke to him lovingly, I said, dad if you leave again, I'm going to court to declare you incompetent. He said ok. The hospital is three hours away, my mom, my two daugthers and I, were going home for one night, and my oldest said, don't worry mom, he can't leave, I got his money, his clothes and shoes. I laughed so hard,,,,,so clever!!! I love Him and could not watch him give up. He got it, he's fine and happy and so are we.

Alma