Buns: I am sending up a prayer for you now!

Thanks. I know how powerful prayer is.

Let your sis ter take you this way you will know where he is.
then you can go any time you want to.

I can understand what you're saying, Eleanor, but the problem is that they're saying ALL visits must be supervised. They've been trying to manipulate me for years, so they know I won't agree with their demands. It's morally, ethically, and legally wrong to do this. My dad is in the last stages of his disease, so every day lost is one that I may not be able to say goodbye. They claim to be Christians, but their actions say otherwise. I've also found evidence of Elder Abuse, so I have to fight back and find out what's truely going on with my dad.

Can you call Legal Aide(free) for elder care advice on this! Maybe they can have a nurse be there with you to "supervise". I myself don't know why the family won't let you visit without a family member. Let me know what legal aide says..ok?

I've already talked to Legal Aid before the guardianship hearing. They gave me some great advice on how to frame my arguments. Unfortunately, the judge ignored my concerns, and now things are much worse.

My family situation is very abusive. I figured out a long time ago, that I would never be able to please them, or make any of their demands. I've been jumping through hoops all my life, but every time I thought things were going to be alright they changed the rules.

My sisters became verbally abusive after the hearing. My bf and the bailiff had to step in to stop my oldest sister from hitting me. I'm about to put personal protection orders out on both of them because I can't trust them not to be that way again.

My mother and sisters knew that I'd never agree to their terms, so that is why they put those restrictions on me. Plus they moved my dad again, which I knew they'd do, too. I'm very afraid that they may abuse my dad, since they've done it to me.

Question...has your family been this way growing up? Is it verbal abuse? If you are interested I just found a website that I think might help me & I thought of you too...if that's the case see the link below. I don't want to step on your toes and if I'm out of line here I apologize. I just know that we have to get better no matter what. My mother and my sister were and still are verbally abusive towards me, in subtle ways. They say oh can't you take a joke or I was only kidding. I think they both were/are jealous of me & I dont know why. I thought we were family! So I have alot of layers that still need to come off. Best wishes!

http://www.hopefields.com/selfcare.htm

It's been like this all my life. It's gotten worse since I figured out that I'd never been able to please them. Sounds like your family and mine could be related, the way they treated both of us. Fortunately, I was able to find a good counselor a few years ago who helped me to move past the abuse. It hurts now because my dad is not doing well, and I'm not having the time to say goodbye. Dad and I came to terms and forgave each other for the past a long time ago, but the rest of them are out to punish me for whatever they think I've done wrong.

Thanks for the link. I'll check it out.

So, your family moved your dad to another place and you don't know where it is?
Yes we could be related. I'm glad you got some help to move on. I just found out one month ago my mom and sister feel entitled..narcissistic. No one ever stood up to my mother before so maybe God put me here for a reason! Now I'm having to undo her specialness and stand up for my life. She wants to know everything I am doing. Oh well have a good night!