Z, not al men are rectal orifices......just sayin......I think Rman just needs to get laid.......that is NOT boring....

I put a lot of energy into leading a boring life. Its a matter of healing after having been in a dramatic, type-A, risk-taking relationship with a dangerous man.

I CRAVE boring these days. Its one of the reasons there is no pleasure in my life.

But I'm hungering pleasure now, where I hadnt much in the last 3 or 4 years.

So I've got goals now, of bringing the old me back in spades. The bike is at the top of the list, next spring I should have it. And sky-diving is up there too. But even then I have a feeling ,my private life will be broing compared to what it used to be.

I got off the rollercoaster. I dont want to find myself on one again.


boring, boring, boring

If you are happy with the way your life is going, is it boring?

I have sweetie snoring as we speak....he's frikkin' dead tired...*awe!* (Can't imagine why....???) :-) Healing takes time....but guaran-fuckin'-tee it...we make up for it! (I'm thinking we only get better in time girls! :-) lol)

Well, my job is working with at-risk teens (prostitutes, drug dealers, in and out of jail, wards of the court, victims of sexual/physical/emotional abuse, substance abusers) so thats never boring, but its where my particular talents and skills come together.

I have great relationships with my son, my exhusband, my mom and my friends. That brings me a certain level of satisfaction and comfort.

I paint, sculpt and make some extra cash as a semi-pro photographer which can on certain days dazzle myself.

But I'm not happy. I'm not in much pain except on odd days, I'm not full of rage anymore, my life is drama-free now, so thats all good.

But I'm not happy no. But I figure this is all part of a process. Maybe the in-hospital treatment centre programe I was talking about before is the missing piece of the puzzle, maybe just time, I dont know.

But I DO know an inability to tolerate the void, the emptiness, the quiet, the boredom is a sign of something not being "right". And my exS was like that. Thats why he was so exciting to be with, and such a rollercoaster ride to be with. If I dont want to be at risk of finding myself with another sociopath, then I know I cant be hungering for excitement, I need to be friends with boredom.

so here I am...BEST friends with it.

Time for the next phase.

Not being happy is OK for right now. But then, I dont think happiness should be a goal...I think that causes trouble too. I'm of the mind that its a by-product of a good life.

I think women can be a lot of fun.

You're right. I am.

So?

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, hmmm, what?

this thread is boring *yawn*

hmm Clerk...broad generalizations about the opposite gender, that are negative, based on some personally bad experiences....

maybe now theres a little more understanding of my "man bashing" thread from a few weeks ago?

How about some empathy?

Your experience that youre going through right now is a small snapshot of the kind of anxiety I lived for over 7 years.

You feel this bad about trusting women enough to date after 3 weeks...imagine insanity for 7 years.

If you can imagine that, you might understand why my reaction is similar, albeit more intense than yours.

Empathy Grasshopper, empathy. Imagining being in someone else's shoes for just a moment.

Its not a bad thing.

With the right one, even when they're boring, they're still cooler than my best guy friend.

Just sayin'.

*Jeebus, I miss female companionship*

*Bangs head on desk*

WEll, Rman, you pulled it off again.

Another simple meaningless thread, not sure how you come up with them!

But love your drum set, and baby pic as usual!

So tell us how you really feel!!! I wanna get to know the real Rman better!!!! I know he's funny as the get-go, but that's all I really know!!!

Okay clerk, her is my broad generalization hope you don't mind but in my experience, men tend to hook up with these fucking but job women, feed into the behaviour, even encourage it with their reactions to said crazy ass bullshit and then are shocked and surprised when the insanity not only continues but escalates.

They then pull away and bemoan the fact that the chick was a nut job to start with and that the relationship wasn't the chipper cheerful little fairytale they decided it should be.

Of course that's my opinion only and we all know what they say about opinions~