Personally i would get into some therapy and join
A divorce care or breakup group to help with the
Grieving and breakup.

Grieving takes awhile to work thru and there is no
Quick fixes or easy way thru it. There will be many
Uncomfortable feelings and emotions to move
Thru, face, process and hopefully let go of.

Sorry for all your pain and hurt, HUGS

So sorry for your pain and long nights. My story is similiar and the pain ran deep. After a while, I worked on removing all triggers. And replacing them with something i liked. I asked myself who am i now? After a while my inner self started to answer. Wish i could make the pain go away for everyone. The healing process is hard It starts by being straight with one's self. Hope this helps.

Ground those emotions and find a way to anchor yourself in the present. If he returns does that mean you'll take another chance and try with him again? And then if it's you alone will you make changes to find you're where you should be? Tough decisions but as I feared them to and I'm still here alone but better than if I had settled to accept her and her drinking back into my life. I'm still not divorced legally but mentally I am moving on. Blessings and let yourself just BE.

I'm going through this right now. We broke up nearly 2 weeks ago and its been so hard. I am beginning to finally accept that we won't get back together, however. After 7 years together nearly every moment it is hard to go day by day alone. I struggle to go to bed because hes not there to tell me goodnight or there in the event I get cold or have a bad dream. I go through sadness, depression, and anger every day. I have to keep reminding myself that it wasn't all good times, like my memory wants to tell me. He has moved on and there is no chance of us getting back together and I need to figure out myself.

I'm still going through it so I can't tell you how long its going to take, but know you aren't alone. The pain and hurt may seem unbearable right now, but hopefully the longer you have to grieve and process it the better it will be. Know I feel your pain.

Sorry you have to be going through this. 6 1/2 months ago I find out after 22 years together stbx has had multiple affairs. I was in your shoes. Pain, betrayal, confusion. The constant reminders of her. All the break downs I had early on. I remember shopping and having to leave to go to the car because I heard a song playing that brought back a flood of memories and emotions.

Time...it really takes time. Everyone also heals at their own pace so there is no timeline to say when you will feel better. Eventually you will and you will see you are better off.

Now is the time to look after yourself. Individual therapy, join a divorce group, this really helped me. I'd be lost without that. Exercise and eat well, your body is stressed out so much you really need to take care of it. Do the little things that make you smile and be happy. Baby steps...before you know it you have taken a giant leap.
Stay strong -HUGS-

At some point it will get better. The hard part is now and may last some time but it won't last forever.

Maybe try to focus on doing something positive in the meantime? A new hobby, self improvement, career etc. It won't fix this problem but at the end you could achieve something good.

Please know you're never alone. I'm going through something similar, but my relationship was different and didn't last as long as yours. I know it's very very painful and there seems to be no end in sight, but there really is. Try to keep the focus on your self and who you are in the eyes of your creator. You are beautiful, precious, and all the love you will ever need is inside of you. Your ex was just a reflection of that. Let that settle deep into your soul. You are enough, you are the love you miss and the love you need.

Much love to you!
Mojo

I'm go8ng through the same things it's been a month now. My stbx left while I was out of town and when I came back the memories overwhelmed me. My fri3nds and family helped me to redecorate make it my "queendom" the said. In a way it felt like i was giving everything we had up but at the same time it was very liberating. Stay strong hugs

I am going through the same thing right now. Mine happened yesterday. I went through another heart wrenching breakup that left me in bed for days almost 2 years ago. Just 5 months ago I finally found someone who I felt I could trust, be myself with and felt loved and accepted for the first time ever. And then he pulled the rug out from under me saying he was unhappy and he knew we would never make it long term ( after he had already told me he loved me, talked future and booked 2 trips at the end of this year with me) I am devastated. I am 31 and I have been through this more than a handful of times. It is always "you are amazing and I love you , but not in love with you" I am feeling the same way as you. I feel like it is always my fault and at this point I am so terrified to get broken up with again I dont know how to move forward. I think I will be signing up for therapy to ensure that this does not take over my life, self esteem and overall well being. I am also trying to remember how I felt last time I went through this and now I look back at that person and feel no emotion towards them so I know it gets better. Hang in there