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Have you ever spoken to Lee before? What promted the original comment to her? I agree with Lee, it does seem rather odd that you would randomly send that to her unless you were looking for something.

Hell, None of us "Belong" here!! If certain other people had just Behaved themselves in their marriages, we'd all be just peachy keen!

No requirements for membership.

Jump in have fun, but just be warned that the waters are a bit rough around here at times.

I agree with Frank , in that if someone was just talking to me and then talked about giving great massages, I would think it is a bit flirty..Only you know the intent of that message to her, but I would have been taken aback by it also as a beautiful young female such as she is.
I have been told I am flirty before, and acknowledge that I am , but I am single.
I am also curious about how the conversation came about. I like to see both sides.
Anyway., we have an ignore feature here and also a report button if we feel in any way that we are being spoken to in a manner that makes us feel uncomfortable..
On the original question, if you are still hurting from the original breakup of many years ago, I feel for you.. To dwell in such pain for such a long time is hard for any of us, and you have my sincere sympathy for that. Have you considered any counseling or therapy to help you heal from that? Many of us here were abused and needed some help to heal from the pain and hurt they left behind. I feel that anyone that is hurting or has a sincere desire to help others that are hurting has a place here. I stay here for that purpose solely as I have been healed for some time.
I thought that Franks and sockfuzz had valid questions. They are ones I would be asking myself.. Best to you, Kimmee

I am sorry you felt that way...it is hard sometimes on here because a lot of people can be clicky..

Absolutely. I found DS when I was going through my divorce and I am now happily in another relationship. I am here to give support and stay in touch with the many friends I have made. Welcome OB

You are welcome here!!

I often come here and see people offering to give people massages and a whole lot more, right out here on the threads, sheesh, never mind an offer of a massage, I have been TOLD to go do certain things (like fuck off) or submit to certian things (get a deep dicking)! LOL! I don't dare express my opinion on that stuff anymore, I got run off for that too many times, so I have learned that impolite things will happen here, and sometimes happen en masse, I have to ignore it or walk around it if I want the good stuff here. This seems to be another example of "it's OK for me to do what I want to do, but not OK for you to do the same". And even if someone said something "odd" to someone here (and, trust me, it has happened to me many times), what real difference does it make, this is the internet for pete's sake. I have learned that anyone can say anything. You can delete or ignore what you don't like. I gave up a looooooong time ago trying to change that with my opinion, it didn't work at all.

Oh, welcome, oldbiker!

Hmmm PGamble mentioned a nun with a big ruler.

*wheels turning*...
That could be fun!

Do nun costumes come with rulers??

In all seriousness, as I said in a rant last week, flirting, offering a massage, much like discussion of 'meat sandwiches' etc is taken entirely differently from someone that one knows, vs someone that one has never heard from before.

If you flirt with someone that you've otherwise had a conversation, or mere banter with, that's okay. If you send suggestive PM's to someone with whom you have little to no acquaintance, you're a troll.

Oh, Patti, I have my own 'ruler'. :-P

Begin, I can SEE your ruler! And your habit! LOL!

This is a public website. All are welcome here. Some may like others more or less, some are much more sensitive than others who have much thicker skin, some can't take a joke,there is a variety here in different stages of emotional distress, some are not.
Bottom line is, when you come to a public website of forum and post ANYTHING, you're open to suggestion, attack, ridicule, praise, etc.. You have to learn to take the good with the bad. I've been on DS for two years now and belong to a lot of boards here. Been blasted many times by haters or people whio just don't agree, whatever. With what i've been thru in my 37 years on this place called earth, my skin is so think it's like friggin' tank armor! lol
Here's my ONE golden rule......if you don't like it, don't read it, don't respond to it.

That being said..enter at your own risk lol