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Got laid off today. Like I needed another issue to deal with right now.
Odd part is, I think because I've been absolutely emotionally spent, I don't really care. Whatever happens will happen. This is small compared to the divorce. At least to me. She was pretty torn up when I told her, but I'm not looking into that too much.
I traveled for a living, and when I was home for a week every seven weeks, I was staying with my mother while I had visitation with our son (this has only happened once so far, the divorce is about a month and a half new). The worst part is going to be that I don't want to burden my mom with me staying there for however long it's going to take to find a new job, and we still have to sell the house before I can afford a place of my own, so I have to move back in with the stbx. In this market, that may take a while. So now I'm stuck back there, without a job, seeing her everyday. This is gonna suuuuuuuuuuck.
Any advice on living with the stbx? I think most of you know the stage I'm in right now (Talk some sense into me thread), so I don't think this is gonna be pretty. But I'll deal I guess. One more thing to suck up.
Odd part is, I think because I've been absolutely emotionally spent, I don't really care. Whatever happens will happen. This is small compared to the divorce. At least to me. She was pretty torn up when I told her, but I'm not looking into that too much.
I traveled for a living, and when I was home for a week every seven weeks, I was staying with my mother while I had visitation with our son (this has only happened once so far, the divorce is about a month and a half new). The worst part is going to be that I don't want to burden my mom with me staying there for however long it's going to take to find a new job, and we still have to sell the house before I can afford a place of my own, so I have to move back in with the stbx. In this market, that may take a while. So now I'm stuck back there, without a job, seeing her everyday. This is gonna suuuuuuuuuuck.
Any advice on living with the stbx? I think most of you know the stage I'm in right now (Talk some sense into me thread), so I don't think this is gonna be pretty. But I'll deal I guess. One more thing to suck up.
I used to spend weekends with my mom, and if I was going to be home during a weekend, the ex would go visit friends.
The good news is, you'll be able to spend more time with your son.
The ex and I established ground rules to living in the same house. Talk to her about ground rules to make it easier on both of you.
The constant reminder that nothing is as it once was......sucks. I am blissfully numb most days....
Hugs and good luck to you!
And, btw, you have a rabid squirrel on your shoulder.
I echo the others; I would stay with your mom. You can help her out, do odd jobs and things like that. Living with your mom will be a lot less stressful than living with your stbx.
Lynne
I haven't spent more than 2 weeks in a row with my son in the past 2 1/2 years, so I'm really looking forward to that. And I love my mom, but I can't imagine staying there, in my sisters tiny old room, for the 6 months to a year that it may take to sell the house...
Oh, and the stbx took in the skwerl when it was very young and helpless. I bonded with it but had to go back to work. Then it bit her (hehe, sensed evil) and her brother, so they tossed it back out. I'm gonna get another one someday :)