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Got laid off today. Like I needed another issue to deal with right now.
Odd part is, I think because I've been absolutely emotionally spent, I don't really care. Whatever happens will happen. This is small compared to the divorce. At least to me. She was pretty torn up when I told her, but I'm not looking into that too much.
I traveled for a living, and when I was home for a week every seven weeks, I was staying with my mother while I had visitation with our son (this has only happened once so far, the divorce is about a month and a half new). The worst part is going to be that I don't want to burden my mom with me staying there for however long it's going to take to find a new job, and we still have to sell the house before I can afford a place of my own, so I have to move back in with the stbx. In this market, that may take a while. So now I'm stuck back there, without a job, seeing her everyday. This is gonna suuuuuuuuuuck.
Any advice on living with the stbx? I think most of you know the stage I'm in right now (Talk some sense into me thread), so I don't think this is gonna be pretty. But I'll deal I guess. One more thing to suck up.
Odd part is, I think because I've been absolutely emotionally spent, I don't really care. Whatever happens will happen. This is small compared to the divorce. At least to me. She was pretty torn up when I told her, but I'm not looking into that too much.
I traveled for a living, and when I was home for a week every seven weeks, I was staying with my mother while I had visitation with our son (this has only happened once so far, the divorce is about a month and a half new). The worst part is going to be that I don't want to burden my mom with me staying there for however long it's going to take to find a new job, and we still have to sell the house before I can afford a place of my own, so I have to move back in with the stbx. In this market, that may take a while. So now I'm stuck back there, without a job, seeing her everyday. This is gonna suuuuuuuuuuck.
Any advice on living with the stbx? I think most of you know the stage I'm in right now (Talk some sense into me thread), so I don't think this is gonna be pretty. But I'll deal I guess. One more thing to suck up.
I can't imagine being in that position...it must be rough. I really hope it works out for you.
At first I was on the fence in my take on what would be the best living arrangement. If you are able to coexist peacefully with the stbx, the exclusive time with your son......well that's really really cool. I'm a little biased here but I think that overrides everything else. You'll find another job (or get called back - I don't know the specifics), but the time with your son will be most rewarding.
Regards,
SD40
I think you should ask your mom if you can stay with her. Like it was suggested before you can help out around her place.
The last 4 months living with my ex in the same house was a nightmare. Do what you can to avoid that situation.
I too live with stbx. With all the crap that has happened to us in the last three years, I couldn't have managed without him.
YOU - need to figure out the pros and cons.
If you stay with Mom:
1. You have a place for your son to visit and he can see grandma too.
2. Is your relationship with her a good one? Is it choosing the lesser/greater of two evils?
3. You don't have to pay rent while you're looking for a job.
4. She may welcome the companionship and help around the house.
If you stay with stbx:
1. You get to see your son
2. Will you be fighting? Is this what you want your son to witness?
3. Is the emotional pain too great and will it be toxic to you? to her? to your son?
Stay strong and I wish you the best of luck!