I don't know. You are doing the right thing.

I don't know either. Everything I read even the Divorce Remedy books say don't tell your ex you love him. Just say it here and we hear you.

Many of us have those same feelings and we need to battle thru them daily. Hang in there.

I am going thru the same thing. The pain just lingers on. We just have to be strong and remember the pain and the unhappiness we had when we were with them. We are doing the right thing. Lets encourage one another.

I am no expert, but I am guessing things can improve when that longing and desire for love and comfort can be replaced or exchanged for something else. The world and life is harsh. A beautiful romance and companionship is the best protection against life's difficulties. When we are forced to live alone, life becomes harder. So, I guess we have to concentrate on what interests and activities can maintain a positive state of mind. I'm not able to seek and pursue another relationship for several reasons. Thus, I will have to find happiness in other ways, if at all possible. We have to fight the sadness the best we can.

I'm unfortunately still feeling the exact same. I've begged so much to my ex, pleaded her to give me one chance, but none of it matters. All I want to do is focus on myself, but I end up constantly thinking about her. Anxiety attacks are frequent for me. My heart is constantly beating at a rapid pace. She knows I suffer from this condition, but she doesn't want to help or even talk to me. She just leaves me in the dirt. I don't want to think about her, but I just do.

I still think I can get over it; I think we all can. It was a lesson in life. Sure, there were times of joy, but we are all learning I guess.

I am sorry for how much you are hurting. It is hard. It takes time. For some of us, a very long time. You are grieving and the only way you will come out on the other side of this is to walk this journey. Cry when you have to cry. Feel sad when you are sad. But know that slowly, surely, it will get a bit better each day. You will start to feel hope again. You will experience optimism again. You will let go of the pain and the thought patterns that keep bringing you back to him. If you are not together, there were reasons that were probably justified, that perhaps would have brought far more pain than you are experiencing now. Be gentle with yourself now. When you are overwhelmed with challenging feelings, do something positive for YOU. Take a long walk. Buy yourself your favorite coffee. Spend time with family and friends who love you and support you. Try something new or join a class or group that reflects something you enjoy. Get to know yourself again. It will get better, it absolutely will. Stay strong!

Thank you all❤️❤️

How long were you together?

Almost 3 years

My end has not come yet. I am so scared and i am in a million pieces inside already.

Do yall text each other throughout the day to get through this?

It hasn't stopped for me yet, but it has got easier. My break up was 5 months ago. We'd been together the best part of three years and this was our third break up. That raw feeling you're describing, I remember only too well the first time we broke up. I could barely function and survived minute to minute. Now is the time for you to grieve - cry and vent. Be kind to yourself, don't rush yourself to feel over it. When you're ready, start to ask yourself honestly about the relationship. Would you want it back how it was? Could it change? I don't know the circumstances of the break up so I can't comment too much further about you wanting to tell him you love him. I have found recently, that when I fake a smile or have a joke, I am actually feeling better (in that moment). It's a long process getting over someone after 3 years together. Mine is a work in progress. Good luck with everything. Wishing you well.

I'm sorry you're hurting and wish I had expert answers. From all I've learned the short answer is that we all heal in our own time. My exwife cheated/left and no one would ever expect it in the type of person she projects herself to be...or me. However it happened and leveled me pretty bad. I'd actually been through a terrible split after dating 4 years with my college gf-that one hurt for a long time. If it makes sense that old breakup actually helped me heal /deal with this divorce much faster because even as confused, lonely, and hurt, etc. as I am, I've been down this horrible road before but know I can and will get through it.

My split/divorce was over the summer and 6 months later I'm getting by with occasionally bad days. Such days get farther and farther apart and I'm finally settling into a single life again although I hate being solo and how quiet things are. The old college split hurt me in varying degrees for years-not as deep clinical depression but just that I'm a very slow healer. The first year was rough and the following year or two not fun either but I buried myself in work and activities.

When you're ready start getting involved in things you love doing and slowly recreating your single-you life. It's hard work that pays off when you can look back and see how far you've come. It's not fast. It's a process. Get lots of help along the way and realize there are tons of others going through the exact same thing. It will get better.

Thank you all so much <3 <3 and to answer someone's question above, no I do not text my ex. We were friends for awhile after the breakup, great friends even. But we both realized that feelings were getting in the way, so we mutually decided no contact was best. We both need to grow and to heal. And maybe, revisit the friendship at a later date and time. The relationship was great. It was literally being in love with my best friend. We had the best times together, lots of laughing, playing around, romance, everyday felt like an adventure with him but home at the same time. But we let our immaturity and college life get in the way and ruin what we had. There was no cheating, so that's not what I'm getting at. Just separate paths, I still have love for him and care for him deeply, but I can't hold onto the past if I want to heal and move forward. So as much as being without my very very best friend is painful, I know it's for the best for right now. I don't regret any second spent with him, our love wasn't perfect but it was one of the great ones.

Again, thank y'all for your advice and kind words.