He smoked and at first being "in love" I thought it shoud be ok for him to smoke in the house. After I decided I was tired of smelling like smoke he refused to go outside. The worse thing! The absolute worse habit he had was when he'd eat the middle of the night he'd put his cigerettes out in the plates and in a glass of whatever he was drinking. Eventually we didn't have ay dishes because I was throwing everything away.

Um I would say every time I said something intelligent my own thoughts about the problems in our relationship he would say "who is feeding your this shit" and "people are putting shit in your mind about relationships that is wrong" and "Who have you been talking to that would make you think this way"
I always had to tell him that I have my own mind and thoughts and I can think for myself... His answer was " sure you can Char"
Never realy though about him being controlling in anyway till I just wrote it all out right now...

Greed. He has MANY horrible traits...traits I overlooked or thought he'd outgrow but greed has to be his biggest. Once he actually sold a pony that was given to the kids for xmas from his dad and kept the money for himself. Seriously. They never even got to see the pony before it was gone. My x said "We give them plenty to make up for it". I told him "you don't get it. It wasn't YOURS to sell. We CHOOSE to give them things...not as a bargain for taking their stuff to sell". Of course this is also the man who refused to give son his dirtbike after he and I separated even though son asked for it repeatedly and even LIED in court saying that the dirtbike was HIS when son got it for his birthday.

These days breathing, lets lying, drinking to much, spending and then spending even more. Do nothing but drinking and spending.

breathing, it's especially annoying now.

Mine was a know-it-all. He was also very critical. If I had an original thought, he criticized it and picked at me until I came around to his way of thinking (just to shut him up). Then he wondered why I wouldn't talk to him and "talk about my feelings." Why would I?

He also smoked and was a slob and a spend-thrift. I hear his new ow likes to spend $$ too. Gee, who's going to mind the bank? lol

My ex saw the world through shit-colored glasses. Everything was negative and against him. He was always the victim.

I think it's funny/ironic that so many women here are saying "breathing". This requires a little back story....

My only pet peeve is,......people with too many pet peeves!!!!

The reason for this is that my ex hated almost everything I did. She couldn't stand the following things that I did:

- Cracking my knuckles
- Me chewing gum (she could chew all she wants)
- Me putting my teeth on the metal of cutlery when eating
- Me dragging my feet across the carpet
- ME BREATHING THRU MY NOSE!!! - She said it made a 'whistling' sound.

Keep in mind that this is just the SHORT LIST!!! This went on for years! I bathe regularly, wear deoderant, don't leave my nail clippings anywhere, but the above stuff was too much?!?!?!

I really think she is ADD.

lieing....not able to share.....inability to communicate about serious issues without cussing or getting angry.....he had too many fears when it came to love and trust....

Lying. Omitting information. Cheating. Emotionally cheating *which is worse? lol* Always having to be right. Putting on a front for my parents. Caring only when things helped him out. Not making an effort to know my friends. Thinking he had it "so bad" with his life. Always wanting me to feel sorry for him. Always sleeping.

You know, this post is good, in the sense that all of these things bugged us about our ex's...and that's why they are ex's. They weren't good for us or to us and we are all better off to start our own lives. As hard as each day can be, the more days we go on without this person in our lives, the stronger we become. The more we can take each day and say, hey you know what, i can do this on my own, I don't need that person everyday. I can find the power and strength within myself. And when you think the day cannot get any worse, that's when you have your friends. Even though someday's might seem like you have no friends, there is always someone thinking about you and wondering what you are doing . To all who are going through a break up or divorce, I wish you strength and confidence in your self and most of all love.

Lieing and being selfish!!!

Drug Use
Lying
Cheating
Alcoholic
Lying
Cheating
Racist
Lying
Cheating
Ummmm.....
Anal Retentive
Hypocrite
Selfish
Lying
Cheating
Mentally/Emotionally/Verbally Abusive
....Basically just an asshole.