I can't say that I have dreams before my divorce, everything was planned for me.....but i have several now a sort of bucket list if you will:
1. 2 seater convertible DONE
2, Cruise to Alaska
3. Cruise the Caribbean
4, Photograph a thunderstorm over the ocean at night
5, See the Grand Canyon
6, drive route 66 while in #1
7.Find that special someone again....if it doesn't happen then that's OK too. I am fine with me as I am....
8. Meet and break bread with specified members of DS Have met several but I am finding that they're are several more that I WILL meet before I'm DUN

OOH OOH I have a dream!!
It goes like this.

It's 5 years from now. I own my OWN home with a few of the sea (I think its on Santorini Island). I've just given birth (naturally no epidural) to twins. One boy and one girl. My partner (looks like Brad Pitt ) lookes lovingly into my eyes and thanks me for his little prince and princess.
We have a wonderul and loving relationship.
There are no fights or arguments.
We love each other more each day.
We share all the responsibilities of running a home and raising kids. We both have jobs (well not me now, I'm a full time mom) that we love and make enough money to keep us happy.
Our house is small but has all the creature comforts including a huge wooly fluffy rug right infront of a fire place.


I am blissfully happy and can't remember a time of pain, hurt, sadness or regret.

I have it all on my vision boards.

(Oh and I look as good as I did in my early 20's)

Thanks Kd, this is exactly what I needed to get me out of my mood!!!
((((HUGS)))))))))

BTW here is the bucket list thread.......

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/6609512-bucket-list-dreams/page-3

1. Complete this divorce and get him completely removed out of my life.
2. Get out of debt.
3. Go back to school.
4. Get better paying job.
6. Be able to save money.
5. Buy my own house.
6. Have a loving, healthy relationship with mutual respect and admiration. Grow old together in love.

(Not much to want eh?)

I too had a 'bucket-list' a few months ago. I should retrieve it and try to breathe some life into it. LOL. Lost a job, moved back to Texas, found a job, still haven't sold this property. I seem to be on perpetual 'hold'.

Maybe a few little dreams should be tackled while I wait for my new life.

Aw, but my NEW life will be MINE and no matter what shape it takes NO ONE will be able to take away one thing from me EVER again... CHOICE. Though my choices right now are dictated by finances they ARE still choices I am making. When my life gets back on track after I sell this place, I will ALWAYS endeavor to remember that CHOICE is freedom and love does not require one to give up freedom; love enhances freedom. So, I must remember that should I fall in love again.

KD, this is a question that haunts me. My dream was to be married and have the family the same as yours.

Now, I'd still like to have a family but now I'm trying to expand this dream. I'd love to see more of America. I'd like to venture to another country . I'd like to learn what it means to have a full life even if that family I wanted doesn't come to me the way I would have liked.

i wanted to overcome my fear of flying alone

i did that last septemeber to a chitown meetup

but been so busy learning to get thru tomorrow and tomorrrow and tomorrow havent really thought far ahead about things to do

Great post...I'm still feeling like I'm in survival mode...doing the whole "one day at a time thing"...but what a great challenge. You worded it so well, and I agree, removing my "H" from all of my dreams and the life I expected is so hard for me still...I want to move out of this tiny small town....I want to take a photography course....I want to live free of resentment, anger, guilt, sadness, shame, feelings of worthlessness, failure, and pain...I want to feel happy and whole again...and I will.

I have grown so much since the seperation.
I made myself too dependent on stbx and lost myself in the process.
I'm still in divorce over 4 years later...sooo...why not redefine my life now.
I'm independent,self relient,caring,loving,fun person.I'm growing leaps and bounds daily at this point.
I'm in college for the first time in my life(48 years old here),working on my associates in psychology.I'm smart enough to be getting "A's" and "B's" so far. I will take my life of experiences of abuse to become a domestic violence counselor. My life is organized and in order.Working hard on myself,I finally have peace and direction(an occasional bump)in my life and loving it.
It's been a long journey but well worth the ride :)
I know all of you will get there some day.Don't expect your reality to come without pain and turmoil.Those are the things that bring beauty out of ashes!

I want to marry and stay married forever. I want 4 children, and I want a nice car. I want to visit Italy on vacation and I want to get a degree in something.

I would like to try kite surfing. I would like to do some adventure stuff. Have a bit of fun is my short term goal.
Long term goal - get out of my misery and get on with living. Build up my buisness till I dont need to do the manual work - have the business pay for my needs and I will have time to live.
Want my son to move out. He is an adult and way too dependent on me.

I want to graduate and get a job where I make a difference in peoples' lives.

Thanks everyone- I LOVED hearing about all of your plans (and unlike just calling them "dreams"- plans will definitely happen!!).

You guys are great!!
Best,
K

My new dreams include doing all the things I wanted to do but never could.
Travel
Family events.
Financial stability.
Going to events he would never go with me to ; concerts, camping etc.
Joining the symphony orchestra which I've always wanted to do, but couldn't because the time it took would take away from 'our relationship' as he said.

Do you play an instrument, P&Q? Which one?

You're full of surprises.