I think it's nothing more than him following your Board.

What do you think his motive is? Sometimes people cling when they are unable to let go. If he is just clinging a little, I'd kind of feel sorry for him, although, he is invading your space, there is no doubt. If he is just trying to get your attention, since you are not talking to him and maybe even not thinking about him, then he defiantly has you thinking about him now. It's to bad that he is clinging, it's hard to move forward when someone from behind is being in your space. If he is no danger, just pesky, it might be wise to just think of it just as TTMI put it, and keep moving forward.

If he is doing more then this though, if he is intimidating you by being in your space then that of course is different. Like I said, it's motive. Clinging, which is sad, or intimidation by being in your space. Only you know which it is.

It's not in his character. He was the one that left me so when I realised I couldn't fight for us anymore I stopped. Gave him his time alone and kept going with mine. I got rid of all ways to contact him and stopped fb like I said, just because it hurt to see him. And believe me. The man is still in my thoughts.

The only reason I thought it odd was the board he was following and knowing I would see this. The board only has women's clothes I like :/
What does ttmi mean?

He wouldn't try intimidate anyone. Whilst he is a dick for what he did, he was a lovely guy, just with a problem communicating, getting scared and then leaving from out of nowhere.

Sounds like he is clinging then. I ended my relationship because it was not good for me, but I still cling a little. thats why I feel a little sad for him I guess. if he is harmless, (and i stress that, only if you think it's harmless) then let a guy cling a little. It's a long hall grieving, sometimes you have to look back as you are moving forward, just as long as your feet keep moving forward.

Let me ask you this though, does it make you stop and wonder if he is having regrets. Dos it make you stop and look back? Are you upset because you are moving forward and he is making you unsure by obviously having an interest in you?

I'm sorry I'm writing so much, but obviously this one touches my heart a bit. I had a dream about a month ago. I am the one that broke up with him, (for good reason) but I did love him, and I am grieving. In the dream, I saw him, and I was sad. He saw that I was sad, and looked very confused. In the dream, he had a new girl, and I could see that my sadness was tearing him. He was moving forward, and I had to not disrupt that for him. I remember that dream vividly. Although I cling, I don't let him see me. He needs to move forward. it was my choice. I hope he will be okay.

It's okay whipple2.
I would be lying if that had not come to my mind. I am trying to get on but I have not yet moved on. If you read my original post you get the idea. Everything seemed perfect blah blah and I loved him unconditionally. He was a great guy to me. Then out of nowhere he doesn't know why but he's unhappy. I'm torn apart. If he was unhappy he had to say. But the fact that the night before he was saying how he loved me and was looking forward to seeing me, whilst knowing he was gearing up to leave me. This has happened twice. Each time after a friend gets married. He never admitted as much and I still don't understand why it happened. I guess a part of me (cruel as it seems) is thinking he may just be as miserable as me. As opposed to imagining him having a grand old time.

To be honest, when you say that you do what you do as you feel he needs to move on, that is exactly like my ex. Rather than talk to me the moment he realises he feels off, he keeps it to himself deciding what's best for me. At one point he said he didn't appreciate me enough and I deserve more. I was happy. I thought he was too. That is what mattered to me.

Ah I'm rambling.

That's rough. It has to be confusing to see him follow your board. I think of all of us like a toddler, we venture out away from Mom, and then when we notice how far away we are, we run back and grab Moms leg. I think it is as we heal too. I love my Fella, our values did not match. He was angry all the time because I could not be who he needed me to be. I had to love myself more, and choose to be me, not try and pretend to be someone I'm not to complete something in him, BUT, I loved him, and I grieve. Sometimes people don't fit well. I don't know why your Fella left twice. Something inside him not okay. I wish my Fella would move on, it confuses me too. Not happy with me, not happy without me. I don't know what to say. I understand being confused, and wondering if they are as miserable too, but I keep going forward, but once in a while, when he doesn't know, I do something that we use to do together cause I miss him. All I can give for advice, cause lord knows I'm not okay, is that when I think about how much I loved him, I have to love myself more. If he has left twice, and is not able to admit why, then he is not apt to change that behavior. Love him, but Love you more and keep moving forward.

Hi Hurt: For your own sake, I would try to block him from any and every board that you are on. It's kind of creepy that he's hanging on and that's not cute. He needs to hit the road and move on. If he can see everything you are doing on any board, he can potentially track if you are talking to males, what people may say to you, etc. and if males begin to talk to you (and hey, males are allowed on female clothing boards), it could push him to the limit and enrage him that you are on boards talking to other men. He could be waiting outside your residence one day, really mad, to punch you out.

Never under-estimate what someone can do. Block him at every point possible, consider him a stalker and use different cities and states on boards and go by other names on boards. You need to ditch him permanently.

Yep, thats the smart thing to do.

I emailed him. No pleasantries etc just saying what is this about.
He said he was looking at my recent art work (some of which is about me and my relationship. Nothing naming names or saying anything bad. Just stuff to get it out my head for a bit) and using his ipad it happened accidentally. That he unfollowed straight after and apologised for weirding me out. He then spoke about one of my character drawings adding a smiley face

I've paused from writing an email back asking why he was bothering to look and that it had nothing to do with him anymore.
I know he had asked before if we could be friends (although he understood if not as he "caused a lot of damage") which I'm not doing. I also know that by blocking him on that site he has no way at all of seeing anything to do with me. I do wonder what he will think.

I know you can't underestimate people and what they can do. But I know he wouldn't hurt anyone let alone me. Hell, I'm more likely to punch! (muay thai training is a nifty thing!)

Should I tell him I am blocking him?

That is up to you. All I can tell you is what I have experienced, and what I found was that as long as me and my fella continued to communicate, it was like a stale mate. Not together, not apart, each afraid to make a move just in case.......You were moving forward, now you are caught. I know you still think about him, as much as the (healthy) people say "Be Happy and Move on" I have found that GRIEVING seems to require thinking about him, and you can't move on if you don't grieve. But I couldn't grieve while we were talking. I didn't start grieving for 6 mo after we stopped all communication. Now I am grieving. There are times I miss him, but I know in my heart that things would be even worse if we got back together, so I cry, sometimes I wear an old shirt he left, and remember the good that there was, but I don't talk to him. Neither one will move forward in there grief and healing if you are at a stale mate. If he has left twice, for what ever reason, you have to decide, do you want to let this continue and hang on, knowing all you know, or do you want to move forward? I've given myself permission to think about him, to be sad, to remember the good times, but I don't ever talk to him, especially now while my heart is tender.