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kdMac 05/15/2009

Well that subject line was a little misleading... I am sure of some of the things folks have done alone... but... I was more interested in the activities you used to do with you wife/husband (in public) that you now brave alone. I am trying to get my nerve up to go to a movie by myself, and I have never gone out to eat by myself... what have others tried and enjoyed doing solo?

kdMac 05/15/2009

Thanks everyone. I have three kids so I am rarely alone... but I do try and stay out of my house when the stbx comes to visit the kids because he can still really manipulate me (my sister stays and supports the visit) and so far I have only run errands, gone out with friends or stayed late at work. I am starting to think it might be cool to do something "fun" even when my friends are not available. I think I would still prefer to do things with others, but I guess I don't want to feel like I can't do something if no one is around. You guys have inspired me to step out of my comfort zone... Best, K

deleted_user 05/15/2009

I have one word for you KD----------------------> SPA.

pemdcat 05/15/2009

I do what ever I what I do not let being "by myself" slow me down.....I am not alone.....

deleted_user 05/15/2009

I go to the movies, out to eat, to the casino, I really don't have a problem going places by myself. Except a bar or something like that. I like my own company.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

Movies, traveled by plane, train, and car, bought a car, went to a wedding, parties, etc. If I feel very nervous, I try to think of some very strong amazing women I know and figure, if they can do it, so can I.

Take your time. Stretch that comfort zone. And bask in the glow of your accomplishments and your new life.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

I totally get what you are saying.

There are things that I really associate doing as a couple, like movies, concerts and restaurants, that I find difficult to want to try on my own.

It's all in my head, so once I dive in , it will be alright...

kdMac 05/15/2009

AJ- go see Start Trek this weekend and then tell me how it went.. maybe I will try it next week.... ( and just think- no one will give you grief about spilling popcorn on yourself either!! LOL)

deleted_user 05/15/2009

I've gone to the movies alone. That was difficult at first, but I was texting someone at the beginning so I felt more comfortable.

I've gone shopping alone. That was a big one since my STBX was always my shopping buddy. I miss that a lot.

Lately, I've been drinking alone! Yikes, yah.

Recently I went to my first family get together without my STBX. That sucked, but some booze helped with that.

I have not gone out to dinner by myself, but I have lunched alone. It wasn't so bad.

deleted_user 05/15/2009

Ive gone travelling on my own, Ive gone for dinner on my own, to weddings on my own. In fact, there aren't many things I haven't done on my own now. No one looks twice at me when I do these things on my own - in fact, most people admire that I have the bottle! Go for it. Once you do it, you'll wonder why you didnt do it sooner!

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