Right now I am in the countdown stage of a wanted divorce. I need support in the form of hand holding, laughter, distraction...

I joined last Aug 20... in a "controlled" separation which I initiated... I need a listening ear, empathy from others who understand what it's like... and yes, laughter is good medicine too.

I think it depends on the day and time and my state of my mind. Sometimes it could just be a hug, sometimes just an acknowledgment that I exist. Other times I need to hear words that tell me that I'm going to be okay.
it depends on my mood of the moment.

I need different kinds of support at different times. Sometimes I need hugs, sometimes I need someone to listen, sometimes I need words of encouragement and sometimes I need to laugh.

But most of the time, I just need someone to acknowledge that I'm here. With the way that things are in my life lately, I spend a lot of hours alone in my apartment and it's nice to know that I'm not really alone. There are real people out there and they know that I'm here and suffering.

Negative reinforcement is what I respond best to. I should have enlisted in the Marines.

I like the "Yes. I understand why you're upset. You have every right to be." or the "Why are you so upset about this? This is why you shouldn't be" kind of support, as well as distraction, distraction, distraction.

I also like having a body of people holding me accountable for making good decisions.

So, you know, friendship. Friendship is my expectation.

yes friendship for sure!

this is my first online support group experience and i'm so thankful i am here.

i am being helped here beyond what i could have imagined ;o)

I am incredibly happy to hear that new people here are finding the support they need, same as I did way long ago.

Anything positive means alot. (I've had more than enough negative in my life. I'm through with that passive-aggressive stuff. )

The biggest support to me is being able to talk to someone either offering support or getting support. Some times I like to read the post.

When I am low, I need cheer leaders to provide me support to make me strong, to stick to my ground and be more logical. It is very hard to see what is right from wrong, when you are in it. This forum helps there.

The most valuable support I ever got was from someone who listened and could say "I know exactly what you mean, I felt/experienced/did that at one time too...it doesn't stay that way" -- understanding, compassion, faith.

Like Patti, my last relationship was filled with too much negative, as well as creation of self-doubt and power dynamics. The last thing I needed was to be told what my problem was or what I needed to do. I was lucky I had people who understood that about abusive relationships, that the support I needed was to reclaim my self-determination, my self-reliance, my inner compass.

truth with compassion. a recognition of the unique value of another and their right to thrive in this world.

life can mind fuck anyone and run them down. whether giving or receiving, it is important that we all get heard and acknowledged.

this forum has been a very good source of good for a very long time.

Hi,

Support to me means friendship. It's a variety of things. Someone to listen; hurt with, laugh with; figure things out with; kick your butt when you need it; and someone to be there when you need it most.
I'm wishing you all the support you need.
John

Responses that are insightful, helpful, kind, sympathetic, uplifting.....

Not cruel, nasty, meanspirited jabs that repost old issues of that member....i.e., "go find your polident."