taking notes

AMEN, brother

Well I don't have a man to put up with LOL But the quality that I will look for is strength. Not physical but emotional. The type where they can put their arms around me and say "It's gonnd be ok" and it will all feel OK at that moment.

Safety. Feeling safe.

Treat me with respect
Dont lie to me
Keep me safe
Dont play games
Do your share

The way they can make a women feel safe from the rest of the world

They way the appear strong to the rest of the world, but can hug you and touch in a tender way

Their penises.

I love a man who is strong of character and has a great sense of humor. (Makes me feel safe and loved) Throw in a dash of harmless mischeviousness and WOW. Swoon.

Amen!

I asked my six year old daughter this question. (Hey, if you want honesty ask a kid!!)

Her answer...body, hair, personality.

For me it would be more of the feeling of having a partner to face the world with.

It doesnt interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesnt interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesnt interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by lifes betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesnt interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
Yes.

It doesnt interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesnt interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesnt interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

--a man who is intelligent
--is emotionally self aware
--is proactive
--contributes equally to household matters, because I work dammit!
--smells good
--is a bit aggressive in a good way; not an icky way
--is confident yet not arrogant
--see response #9

their arms......and shoulders, and backs and.....and and and

ladies, not what you want in a man, or the type of man you are looking for.

what do you like about men in general?

begin, your #9 is general, the other one, not so much

OH! I'm sorry I didn't pay attention.

Then I'm sticking with #9!