Your soul?

Not much......

I can tell you how to win a man...

this should be interesting... i want to hear

Who says we want one?

I say you want one...

Honesty...plain n simple. Humor gets me too though.

I want a man who will actually give a shit about what's going on in my brain.

soul food!

these days just civility and some distance "back it up!"
if/when I get into a relationship again - honour, and empathy

as long as he has those two things theres huge opportunity

joybean nailed it. Honesty, humor, not afraid to let someone in.

I am a good listener and a talker. I talk and listen about problem, feelings, issues, how to resolve them, my needs, her needs...nothing to me is off limits. I also love affection and to be affectionate, yes, even in public.

I find that the women I have been involved with didn't really like that about a me because they thought is was either too um, "unmanly?" as in my ex-wife or to much drama as in the recent ex gf.

I believe it is really a challenge for women to accept that a man can be like that, but also to be able to communicate what they NEED. With my last gf, she called it all "drama" as I made attempts to talk about the issues, how they made me feel and what I needed. Calling it drama felt very dismissive.

I guess once we love and are loved enough to really care about meeting someones needs....not being all selfish about just our own, we might be half way there...

What do I know...

Hope this thread hangs around awhile, because I'm dying to see some of these answers (if, for no other reason than to refute my own jaded and cynical theory on what women are looking for).

I don't know...

each woman is going to be different... the issue is, can THIS woman or THAT woman deal with MY situation?

Can you deal with me being a full time father? I don't have a choice in the matter... i can't afford to hire a babysitter a dozen times a week, just to get out and babysit.

Can you deal with me making my child my priority in life? I'm not going to rush my relationship with you, not because i may or may not want to but because I need to really, seriously and carefully evaluate the situation before i introduce my child to the mix.

Can you accept that just because I don't want to sleep with you doesn't mean that I find you ugly? I don't believe premarital sex is appropriate, and as much as I may want to jump you in bed... I won't, and you need to understand that it has nothing to do with your attractiveness...

basic respect
coming home at the end of a work day
honesty
putting effort into the relationship


that's about it.