Wait, he says HE'LL give YOU another chance? He has been the one cheating on you and on repeat and for many years! Ask yourself, what has he done for you? How does he show you that he loves you and that HE deserves another chance?

You are right to care about your son and his family (from what it sounds like) and someone needs to look after and care for you, too. Your husband is clearly not doing that for you nor has he for 20 years. From just this tidbit that you shared - let him go. Start your own life with the respect and caring that you deserve. Don't worry about your size, but do aim to be as healthy as you can with your disability. Don't let anyone, including yourself, judge your value or self worth because of your shape or size.

Make an appointment with a divorce attorney to get a consultation.

You are entitled to so much. Half the house, half of all his retirement money, your bank accounts, everything. You will be okay financially. But you'll need a lawyer to get all of this. Just go for a consultation to see how much you are going to get (you're going to get a lot of money!) You will need this money to live on, so please go do that.

You have put up with this for way too long. Do you have a therapist? You could talk to one on the phone or video chat even. A therapist can help you get through the emotions you are feeling.

It is good you reached out here for help. You can put your life together. It won't be easy at first, put one foot in front of the other.

I agree that you should consult a divorce attorney and I also suggest a few sessions with a therapist to sort all this out. The grown kids might have to live somewhere else and that is not really your problem. Your husband has cheated on you and blames you for the problems, when he says he'll "give you another chance". This is emotional abuse.

I know I am wrong in this. my granddaughter is 6 I should of been tougher on them to get on their own feet. I keep giving them more rope to hang themselves I need to push them harder but is it enough or is it to late to save my marriage. And what about my son and granddaughter will I lose them too..

It may be time to just take care of yourself and let the other adults take care of themselves. Perhaps your son has been hearing your husband belittle you and blame you for years, and now believes he himself can blame you for his own failures too. I suggest talking this out with a therapist to get an outsider's view.

So It's been 2 weeks since he's been back. My son his wife and my granddaughter still are here without a dime to their name The only way to leave is my daughter-in-law and granddaughter live with her family and my so sleeps in basement of a friend's. He is still trying to get on disability. Because of my granddaughters surgeries my daughter-in-law took off a semester of school now the school dropped the one course she needed. Now she must take the 2 year course all over. Her parents are paying for that. She is working 1 to 2 days a week. They can't afford to pay me even a 100 a month.. I do understand and sympathize BUT like my husband says when is it our turn.

This is a tough situation and I am sure your health issues have not made it easy to deal with all of this but it sounds like something has got to give here. Your husband is clearly in the wrong to cheat on you and you don’t have to accept that kind of treatment. You are a precious child of God’s and He has a plan for you. You sound like a very compassionate person. But I clearly think you need help to sort all this out and find a resolution. So, I would suggest talking to a counselor for resources to help you work thru this. I am praying for you. God bless you and your family.

My husband decided at 57 to retire like I said I am disabled even if I could get a part-time job it would only be 15 hours that I was allowed without losing my disability. Basically I pay all the bills myself He wants to move south to retire. Sell my house get rid of the cats which my granddaughter considers her buddies they sleep with her even. I lost my sister and brother years ago when they found out everything that was going on. Parents are both dead. My brother was my husbands best friend until all the lies and sneakiness. When I took my husband back last time they said they would never be here for me again we haven't talked in 5 years. My kids are saying the same thing now. They said I'm like a drug addict when it comes to my husband. I've lost his parents sister and brother that I was close to because they totally agree with him.. Kick out the kids its not my problem what happens its theirs get rid of cats and move if I really love him otherwise he should go with the other one because she can afford to buy him a house and pay bills herself. She may have 5 kids but they are growing and will be out because she so strict.. Oh and I am nowhere near as neat as her. I am happy that he will be happy but he is making me feel guilty saying he will always resent me for not giving him what he wants so we can stay together.

I have had counselors and shrinks and pills. I had a nervous breakdown 10 years ago. Neither my son or daughter lived at home at the time but he wasn't happy because I wasn't shaped the way she was and I worked full time then. and wasn't always there at his beck and call. He left one night and 8 hours later came home crying that he loved me. A month later he was with someone else that had more class and love then both me and that other one put together. His words. Told me that he wasn't in love with me but would always love me because I was the mother of his children. I left him and he freaked came after me even calling police on 2 of my friends thinking they were hiding me. He left her and for 5 years I thought we were doing great. Then he told me he didn't love me and moved in with a friend of ours for 2 months they had been sleeping together for a year he even let her work at our store we owned on my day off without me knowing claimed it was because my son was back home and my granddaughter was being born. This time the day before I found evidence of his relationship he told me he loved me and was gonna spend the rest of his life proving it and making up for the past. The day after he told me he wasn't in love with me and hasn't for a long time and has been sleeping around with so many other women. Now he denies the other relationships. Although he has an app called keepsake with 3 women on it all naked pictures of the. One I found out he had a threesome
with her and her young daughter. gross He Has left me 3 times and comes back. We still have sex together He says he not cheating on her because we are still married. He is waiting on a miracle he says that I will get my head straightene and do what he wants I told him I will not sell this house because I am afraid that a few years down the road he will do this again. and then I will be stranded. Yet half of me cries and wants to do what he wantsjust to keep him. I am so scared I told him if he leaves its for good no returns we get divorced He says some people get divorced and years down the line get back together. My head is swimming I feel like I'm having another breakdown yet I know its my fault because I won't let go. Today he is at his mother's. Oh she wants him to take the house. or not get a divorce so when I lose the house he can take it back..Does any one else think my life sounds like sick deranged series from Netflix. Im 55 with all this shit I wonder if I'll see 57. How do I get out of all this, move on put my house back in order. Where do I go who do I trust. What do I do????? I'm feeling desperate.