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What a waste of years

Rman
Rman
Do you ever feel like you wasted many years of your life on your marriage? I do. It actually pisses me off. Other than having my beautiful daughters, I pretty much wasted over 10 years of my life. I wanted the marriage to work out, but she didn't and doesn't really give a crap. I often wonder how I could have spent those wasted years...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't agree that they were wasted years. Now the last year of my marriage was a waste to me.... not him as he used it to plan out his move with the ow. A**holes!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I used to feel that way.
That was anger/resentment talking.

I was angry that I spent 12 years on a relationship that ended badly.
Apparently I wanted guarantees or else it was all for nothing.

I don't feel that way anymore.

I am disappointed, but not angry.

There is a difference.
totallychaotic247
totallychaotic247
I would not trade the married years for anything bc if I were to do that, I would have to give up our children. I think that alot of the time love and energy that I put into my relationship with my stbx was wasted on him. I should have given it to someone who deserved it, but I don't think the years were wasted!