I agree with one of the comments, do what is right for you.

I know for a fact I don't want to throw his photos or cards out. Why? Because although he hurt me a lot in the last two and a half years, he also made me the happiest woman in the world in the 11 years prior to that, so all the cards and photos from that time are truthful, we were in love, he cared for me, he treated me well, it just did not last forever. They are all happy memories and in those photos I feel he is (in a way) a different man from the one he became. He was a man I loved and respected, who was proud of me, was gentle and truthful. The more recent pictures are a different matter, in them I see him as the face of deceit. I won't get rid of those either, they're for my daughter.

It is definitely a personal choice, it depends how you feel about the photos and about him.

I was married at the local county courthouse. I only have one picture of my wedding day. It's just a regular polaroid photo. I'm not even sure where it is anymore. At one time, not having any wedding pics really upset me. Now, not so much.

Thank you all you made me think. My kids right now would not care about the pictures their father has nothing to do with them and they know this. I don't want to look at them because I am sad and angry, yes I have those mixed emotions that I am sure you have all dealt with. I would love to burn them in my anger, but I am afraid I would regret it later on, not because I want them to be apart of my life, but because they are apart of my life and maybe my kids might want to see them later or the grand kids. I guess the best thing to do is just get them out of the house and just not worry about it right now. I am going to go through my photo books and take the pictures of him out of the books. I don't look at the wedding book because I have no reason to, but I have gone through the photo books just to look at pictures by myself and with the kids. And I hate to see his face.

Rose: dont torture yourself "going through those pics", just place them on a safe container and get them out of your reach in the attic or somewhere else safe. If you look at them you are going to cry and you dont need more of that now....

Hubby and I were married almost 20 years and he walked out on me and our teens. We have been separated for a year. At first I left up all the pictures and one day I said no more. I saved all the pictures and they are put away and I also sold our wedding rings.I still have every card he every sent me though. One day I will get rid of them too.The beginning was great but after years of emotional and psychological abuse not so great in the end.

i have given mine to my sister to put up for my kids for when they will want to look at them later on.

i come from a divorced family and i know that when i was about 18 i wanted to see my mom and dads wedding photos. my mom got them from my grandma's house and i now have there pics. so i don't rec getting rid of them.

I'm not sure yet - I think I'm going to give him the album and let him do with it what he wants.

I have mine stashed away and will probably keep them forever just as my ring. They are part of me and who I am. Some day I hope to be able to look back at them and remember the good.

My grandparents divorced & my grandfather's second wife stored all the photos from my grandfather's first marriage. I am SO very grateful for that. My biological grandmother ended up dieing long before I was born & with out my "step" grandmother deciding that those photos were important I would have no idea that I look almost exactly like my her, what her smile looked like, what color her hair was, what my mother looked like as a baby, etc.

My mother & father divorced when I was just under 3 years old & no photos made it. I have no idea what my father looked like, if there were any photos of me & him together, what our houses looked like, nothing. I don't desire a relationship with him at all but I still really wish I did have some pictures from that time. I's sure my children will someday too.

Stronggal said "If they want to know about their roots they can get that info from me and their father." While this is true what if something ever happened to you? Who's to say that your ex would care to share any info, unbiased info, or even true info?

I think photos are really important & they need to be kept for future generations. You don't have to look at them or think about them ever again. Just box them up & give them to your kids when they are old enough to know what they want to do with them.

I felt exactly the same. I left our wedding pictures at our house when I moved out. Like you, I wanted no reminder of what used to be. My aunt & uncle stayed withe me for a couple weeks while I was going through mediation (yes...I was a mess). They went through all my photo albums, took out all the pics that had the ex in them; put them in zip lock bags and had my daughter take them to her father. The end. :)

I'm with you Amber. I'm glad my mom didn't destroy her wedding pictures, or take out all the pictures of my dad.

My pictures are part of MY past too, and as much as I don't like to think about it, my ex was a part of my life. To destroy all the pictures is to destroy my life and my memories--I don't want to do that.

Right now I have stored them away. I don't want to see them. I am saving them for my stepdaughter. If she wants them, that's fine. If not, maybe one day I'll toss them.

I think each person has to do what is right for him/her.

right now, they are in the garage, double bagged stored in a bin (like the rest of my wedding stuff). When I move, they will stay in the bin, but in the basement storage room. I'll keep them for the kids, for when they get older. The pics honestly don't bother me. My parents still have our wedding pic up on their hallway wall (with the rest of my siblings wedding pics).

I sent all the wedding photo albums and framed pics to him. Mailed them not sure what he did with them. I only kept two pics one of my side of the family and me(all my cousins aunts uncles and grandmother) and one pic of me and my mom.