I will NEVER say "I do" again - ever!!!!

I'm a hopeless romantic.

While I will be VERY careful about saying "I do" I wouldn't mind getting married again, someday.

I love weddings!

I'm a hopeless romantic as well.. heheh..

I am not saying that I don't have a romantic side. I would just not get married to someone as quickly as I did. We started dating in January and were married in October.

I used to go and sit through the ceremonies trying to control the urge to yell out "Don't do it!" when they asked if anyone had a reason why they shouldn't be married.

Now I just sit back and watch as people blow through thousands of dollars and go into debt trying to turn a civil union into some kind of fairy tale.

Is there some connection between that ideal weddings try to portray and the disconnect between how romantic marriage seems and the reality of it all?

You just broke my heart Heave..

I had the dress ALL picked out and everything..

(sobbing into scarf..)

meh.

I've never been married (commitment phobia? who knows...)

but even so, I've never been a fairy tale princess big dress huge wedding kind of girl.

don't get me wrong - if I ever DO get to that point in my life, I'd like something nice (not the county courthouse) - because I think it's a special thing that should be celebrated, but.... I also think so many people get WAY TOO gung ho on the wedding itself and see THAT as the brass ring and don't consider the symbolism behind it.

To me, a wedding is the day that to celebrate and commemorate something much larger (the commitment two people are making). It's not about the dress or the reception venue or having an open bar or any of that other shit I see on those wedding shows that makes me want to throw up. To me, it's about a celebration of love and commitment and wanting friends and family to witness that and share in that joy for a day... but even then, it's ONLY ONE DAY. The actual gift is (or should be) the relationship that you are embarking upon building with your partner.

So, eh... I'd rather have a simple wedding without the frills because what's more important to me than a dress or table linens and booking a hotel for the "perfect" weekend is using my time and energy and putting that toward my relationship.

but that's me... *shrug*

LOL KN...We have to date a while first :P

I'll never do it again either.

I'd do it again. I actually very much enjoyed being married, not the outcome I expected but I loved it while it was good.

I'm a risk-taker.....lol .

I will caution people about saying never......If you say never you lock yourself into one place....Never be locked into anything, always stay flexible.

Well good thing I left the tag on!

(stomps off to find receipt..)

Funny you post this, Heave. I was flipping through the channels recently and came across a reality show about brides and their weddings, preparations, etc. I watched it thinking... save the money. So much is put into the affair, it is no wonder the meaning is lost. Was sad and funny to watch.

I'm older than most of you. I'm 51 with adult children. I'd like to have a relationship someday but not marriage. I believe until death do us part. He will pay me maintenance until death do us part.

I'll say ok to Begin...