i would love my STBX's boyfriend to leave her just like she left me and that their relashionship falls appart, soon! She needs to feel this pain.

I know this is terrible but I sometimes thinks that her failing out of grad school. Since I moved for her to go to school.

In reality, I don't believe we have to waste one second of our thoughts wishing them any ill will, karma is a b-- and sincerely believe all you do comes back to you in some form or another whether it is good or bad, shall be up to the life you choose to live.

The ow is out of the picture and I didn't even have to wish for that. My fantaisies no longer involve my stbx ;)

K, we are not saying we are going to do these things, but sometimes, it helps us think of bad things happening to them to help us through the day. I really dont want bad things to happen to him, but, if they do, it wouldnt be my fault. Know what I mean?

Lucky you Victoire! See, you waited, and it happened!! Patience, I know, patience!!!
It will come to me one day:)

That he would realize what he threw away and asked me back and I could reject him like he did me.

When all is said and done, I actually think this WILL be the way things go down. He's already in debt for over $500K. I see A.) to get enough money to cover the payments on his debt he will start growing/dealing drugs with HER encouragement B.) He asks her to get a job. Scenario A: He starts growing marijuana on his farm. Both her brother and her father have served time for this offense and as a drug user, my x wouldn't hesitate if he was having financial trouble. At this point, he will likely be caught (because last I heard they were suspecting him because of who he is with) and end up in jail. While he's in jail, she will have no money and no job, all of their possessions would be seized by the government so she moves on to her next sugar daddy.
Scenario B: Not being able to meet his financial obligations, he arranges for his grandmother to babysit free of charge so his gf can get a job. Her goal when finding a man was not to have to work anyway so this will not sit well with her. They will have a horrendous fight (she's not exactly cool, calm and collected)...and she'll end up moving on...and he'll be paying out even more of his $$$ in CS after the baby is born in April.

for his heart to be ripped out like he did to us.

I think continually about what I would like to have happen to my "x". Whatever thoughts I have - they are NOT NiCE

I don't wish anything bad for my ex.,at the end of the day she is the Mother of my Child & i hope we can somehow get through this & all be ok.
However, the best thing that could happen for me right now is that i grow stronger & stronger, calmer & calmer until i am fine with all this, i know there are certain people out there who don't think i can do it & are waiting for me to mess up. I would love to prove them wrong!!

Sew Prawns into the hem of all the curtains in "Her" (used to be "ours") house.

It would drive her crazy since the house was always kept spotlessly clean.

Pathetic I know but it's healthy to vent once in a while. :o)

Finally, no revenge fantasies here. LOL, unless you call the fantasy where he decides I deserve my true share of the 'community property' and walks away!

Ahhh, dreams are sweet. Thanks diemjs!!

I went through the payback fantasies as well and for a while I think it got me through the day. I actually could have turned him upside down with the knowledge of something that would have hit him financially as well as take the pleasure out of the house he so easily took for himself without regard to the fact that it was over my back he climbed to move himself up. But, I did not act and knew in the end I could not live well with myself knowing that I had traded my integrity for vengeance. Don't get me wrong - the fantasy helped me not to feel so helpless at times, the carrying out would have been a burden that I would not want for the rest of my life. I don't want to be with him and I don't want to be like him. I am not a saint, I stayed my hand because in the end I wanted to feel good about myself and not sink to his level.

Mrtame - wow - I need to hear what you are saying. There is nothing positive about wishing the worst for my "x"- and I guess that it is nothing but a waste of my good time. I should concentrate on myself and moving forward instead of continually looking behind. Thanks