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Well, it's been over a year since my wife told me she was not in love with me anymore. Due to financial reasons, we are still living in the same home with our children.
Now for the good part...
Wednesday night she left a note on the counter for me to read when I got home from work. It said, "I want to stay up with you tomorrow night." This is code for sex. This threw me for a loop, as we have been technically separated for over a year. Obviously caused confusion in my simple brain.
So I get home from work on Thursday night at around 11:00pm, not knowing what to expect and noticed a note on the counter again. The note said "I am exhausted."
I detected a mind fuck coming on, and felt confused again, to say the least. So I just thought, whatever and went to bed.
The next day was Friday and I was sitting at my desk, just doing the usual pretending to be working routine, when in reality I was killing time on this dating site called DailyStrength. The phone rang, I picked it up and my wife was on the other line. She told me that she wanted me to "stay up" with her on Saturday night. She then proceeded to tell me that a friend of hers gave her a coupon for a discount on a plasma TV and asked me if I had a problem buying it this weekend...
Huh?
I feel like a prostitute or something...please hold me and feed me tacos...
Now for the good part...
Wednesday night she left a note on the counter for me to read when I got home from work. It said, "I want to stay up with you tomorrow night." This is code for sex. This threw me for a loop, as we have been technically separated for over a year. Obviously caused confusion in my simple brain.
So I get home from work on Thursday night at around 11:00pm, not knowing what to expect and noticed a note on the counter again. The note said "I am exhausted."
I detected a mind fuck coming on, and felt confused again, to say the least. So I just thought, whatever and went to bed.
The next day was Friday and I was sitting at my desk, just doing the usual pretending to be working routine, when in reality I was killing time on this dating site called DailyStrength. The phone rang, I picked it up and my wife was on the other line. She told me that she wanted me to "stay up" with her on Saturday night. She then proceeded to tell me that a friend of hers gave her a coupon for a discount on a plasma TV and asked me if I had a problem buying it this weekend...
Huh?
I feel like a prostitute or something...please hold me and feed me tacos...
Lynne
Why doesn't taco bell deliver, anyway?
dang, she is mental. *hugs and tacos*
Rman, I have a hunch that you are a really good guy, the kind many women dream about.
You deserve to meet someone why would want to have sex with you because she is in love with you, because she believes you are wonderful, because she finds you attractive and for everything good about you that you have to offer, not because of some twisted, capricious reasons your wife has.
You got it - you are not a whore who can be just picked up whenever she feels like it.
I can imagine how hard it is for you and how lonely you are, but good times are ahead.
Tacos and holding for you!
best wishes!
Is this the first time she's asked you to "stay up"? You didn't say you wouldn't...
I've been living with my stbx for a month and I couldn't even imagine her asking that. Not that she would, she wouldn't want to be unfaithful to the OM.
((((((tacos))))))
don't let her mess with your head. draw a clear line: either in or out. no in between.
she is testing her boundaries and power over you. you can't let that happen.
whatever those financial reasons are, you had best solve them so that your new single life can begin to take shape. your in between phase is hard enough but a person can only tolerate just so much.
fucking manipulation is all it is, grudge fuck her, then tell her that was maybe worth a clock radio at the best....
Sorry, my anger issues are showing again.
First of all. Do you KNOW how much electricity a plasma TV uses? Those are the SUV of the home electronics market! The wattage used in standby is STUPID.
You guys are SEPARATING. What the HELL would you buy a new fucking TV for anyway????? Who gets it?
yeah yeah the sex thing is messed up.. bc you're a horny bastard (like all men i would assume) and I am sure she got you "thinking" and getting emotionally ready. being let down (hey we have all been there) hurts.. men or women
but the part that really disturbs me is wanting to buy a plasma. i consider you a friend and i do know your story.. you work two fing jobs for 16 years.. and although she does work the burden of the household finances are on you. she wants this and that.. yet YOU are the one breaking your back to work for it.
Where are her priorities?? coupon or not, "spending" and having "new shiny things" doesn't seem like the best thing for your family at this time.
forgive me if i am out of line.. but from this behavior i would guess she is a selfish person who likes to compulsivley shop, and cares a lot ab what others thing.
hell no to the tv. you first need to be in a place where you can afford to you YOUR OWN PLACE (to eat tacos, etc) and not have to share with a person with whom you feel tortured.
again, reply #7 is dead on.. i just added a bit more.
good luck buddy
subway hugs
Do you have an exit plan yet? If not, it's time dude.