Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was on this site last year when my hb left me for a "girl" half my age. He was such an a-hole, calling cops over my texting ( no threats, just rel't back-n-forth ).... He moved out, then spiralled and lost job, girl, apt and moved back in as police said unless divorce is finalized he has legal right to be here. We have reconciled meanwhile, and it's the same crap all over.
My hb has PTSD from escaping a war torn country. He's a moody, brooding, musician type that was sexy then, but oh so unstable now. He's seeing a therapist, is medicated for a panic disorder..etc. Thing is I can't let go my resentment, and his mental health impacts everyone around him. He's mid 30's, and still stuck on "f the man" and how society has not given him the dream job, threatens to kill himself regularly, even in front of our young children. He can't get state help bc of immigration status, doesn't earn enough to support himself. I feel like I'm being forced to keep him and endure his "unloading" on me daily. He revels in misery.
He says if I leave he may kill himself, though it was fine when HE left, and it would be MY fault. I don't know how to get out. I'm 37, and really just want to have some damn joy in my life, finally. I believe in the person underneath the drama, but don't trust him as a foundation to be tied to. I love him as a brother, but another side of me is hating him. I see he's manipulative, and self-absorbed, and his pain trumps everyone on the planet. Any ideas on how to make the break wo breaking him?
My hb has PTSD from escaping a war torn country. He's a moody, brooding, musician type that was sexy then, but oh so unstable now. He's seeing a therapist, is medicated for a panic disorder..etc. Thing is I can't let go my resentment, and his mental health impacts everyone around him. He's mid 30's, and still stuck on "f the man" and how society has not given him the dream job, threatens to kill himself regularly, even in front of our young children. He can't get state help bc of immigration status, doesn't earn enough to support himself. I feel like I'm being forced to keep him and endure his "unloading" on me daily. He revels in misery.
He says if I leave he may kill himself, though it was fine when HE left, and it would be MY fault. I don't know how to get out. I'm 37, and really just want to have some damn joy in my life, finally. I believe in the person underneath the drama, but don't trust him as a foundation to be tied to. I love him as a brother, but another side of me is hating him. I see he's manipulative, and self-absorbed, and his pain trumps everyone on the planet. Any ideas on how to make the break wo breaking him?
Talking to an attorney will help you lay out a best course of action for leaving.
Sending hugs!
You are not responsible for the choices he makes. You need to remember that no matter what.
Don't stay out of a guilty feeling....u will feel like crap forever!
((hugs))