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I have always been accused of being optimisitc to the point of complete denial sometimes, but I am deciding that my new goal should be to focus on what I do have rather than what I do not have. So here goes - the top 10 list of things I do have...
(1) I do have intelligence and common sense. I am the only person in my family to finish college, and I have a Master's Degree in Criminology.
(2) I do have a few great friends.
(3) I do have the passion for helping others. One of greatest talents has been to be there for others, and to make their lives better. I am not afraid to stand up and speak out when I need to do so.
(4) I do have a job for two more weeks, and then I have the freedom to start my life over wherever and with whomever I choose.
(5) *****I do have the freedom to use as much toilet paper as I want whenever I want (my ex put the limit at 4 sheets - I am not kidding).
(6) I have a wonderful dog who loves me dearly and depends on me to care for her. She never leaves my side when I am sick or down - a truly devoted friend and companion.
(7) I do have the credit score that I never had before, and I did it by myself. After college, my credit sucked. I spent the last 1 1/2 years working on improving my credit and being more financially wise. Now my credit score is better than my anal retentive ex. He is jealous.
(8) I do have a reliable car that I also love. Its about the only thing I got from Mr. $800k man.
(9) I do have my freedom. I do not have to answer to him or to be dominated by him any more. I do not have to make excuses for his behavior or smooth over his condescending and arrogant comments to his family. They like me better than they like him anyway. And I don't have to give them a list of the house rules to sign when they come to visit me. His niece asked if they could stay with me rather than him when they come to visit - tee hee!
(10) I do have my dignity. I did not make a scene when his new gf was at my house (actually his house), but I helped to pick it out.
If anyone, I else wants to post their top ten, I think that might be great. I think I am going to print mine and hang it by my computer to remind myself how very great my life is even though sometimes it does not seem that way.
(1) I do have intelligence and common sense. I am the only person in my family to finish college, and I have a Master's Degree in Criminology.
(2) I do have a few great friends.
(3) I do have the passion for helping others. One of greatest talents has been to be there for others, and to make their lives better. I am not afraid to stand up and speak out when I need to do so.
(4) I do have a job for two more weeks, and then I have the freedom to start my life over wherever and with whomever I choose.
(5) *****I do have the freedom to use as much toilet paper as I want whenever I want (my ex put the limit at 4 sheets - I am not kidding).
(6) I have a wonderful dog who loves me dearly and depends on me to care for her. She never leaves my side when I am sick or down - a truly devoted friend and companion.
(7) I do have the credit score that I never had before, and I did it by myself. After college, my credit sucked. I spent the last 1 1/2 years working on improving my credit and being more financially wise. Now my credit score is better than my anal retentive ex. He is jealous.
(8) I do have a reliable car that I also love. Its about the only thing I got from Mr. $800k man.
(9) I do have my freedom. I do not have to answer to him or to be dominated by him any more. I do not have to make excuses for his behavior or smooth over his condescending and arrogant comments to his family. They like me better than they like him anyway. And I don't have to give them a list of the house rules to sign when they come to visit me. His niece asked if they could stay with me rather than him when they come to visit - tee hee!
(10) I do have my dignity. I did not make a scene when his new gf was at my house (actually his house), but I helped to pick it out.
If anyone, I else wants to post their top ten, I think that might be great. I think I am going to print mine and hang it by my computer to remind myself how very great my life is even though sometimes it does not seem that way.
(2) I love still be very close to all of my STBX family, they are the coolest people other than my our family and very understanding. They have been the greatest support for my son and me. Only talk about the good and dealing with the future.
(3) I am alive, and and can face anything in my life. Nice to have roots again in my life.
(4) My friends have been there for all the good and bad and still there after. All my vents and crying. I can say anything even if I don't act on some of the stuff I vent at.
(5) I enjoy life and love doing things.
(6) I will soon( I hope) have my own place to call home and can decorate it any damn way I like.
(7) I can now have All the healthy food and rabbit food I like and ice cream in the Kitchen.
(8) I can make any plans I wait to do the week and not have to worry about STBX maybe not waiting to or not being home anyways.
(9) I have moral, self respect and know I handle the divorce, fairly. I can hold my head up high knowing I can live with the choice I made for my son and me.
(10) I am well loved by many and myself and I don't need an relationship to get it. And if I have a relationship, ditto for me and a bonus.
1) I have my health
2) I have a job
3) I have a roof over my head
4) I have few friends but real ones
5) I have a cat that i adore
6) I have a renewed relationship with my sister and i am going to be her son's aunt
7) I have this site when i feel down
8) I have my intelligence and i am confident at work
9) I have plans for myself only
10) I have this new faith that everything happens for a reason, that i am right where i need to be and that a better me will rise from this experience.
1. I have my dignity even when my ex tried to destroy it.
2. I'm intelligent
3. One of my greatest strengths is my willingness to pick myself up when down.
4. Discovering late in life that I'm very creative and have an artistic streak.
5. My empathy and kindness towards others.
6. The love I feel for my family
7. The ability to think 3 steps ahead.
8. My ethics and unwilling to compromise it.
9. My love of people.
10. My spiritual life.
1) I am one who cares
2) I have a family that showers me with love
3) I have a network of friends that enrich my life everyday
4) I strive to leave the world in a better place than I found it
5) I forgive myself so that I may live guilt free and move forward
6) I am capable of an incredible amount of loyalty and love
7) I am faithful
8) I give a mean back rub.. Lots of experience as a Nurse
9) I made a conscious choice to impact people in a positive manner
10) And most important, I am thankful to God for giving me an opportunity to live another day longer.
1. I have my Sense of Humor...awful as it can get at times, it Still belongs to Me.
2. I still have some Dreams. Yeah, unbelievable, huh?
3. I have my Dogs. (that might have been better as number 1)
4. I have a Roof Over My Head.
5. I have Friends.
6. I have just enough Dignity to make me stand up and say No More.
7. I have just enough Back Bone to keep me standing-it will grow.
8. I have my Truck, and if something happens to it I have my Car.
9. I have the Respect of two of my kids.
10. I have the Chesapeake Bay right outside my back door.
1. I have a great laugh and enjoy being silly. I love kids and very easy going. I have fun meeting people and not shy unless I IM lol no clue why
2. I am a giver and try to help everyone ( can be good and bad)
3. Family and friend are my most important thing in life and I will help someone I love to the end.
4. I don't need plans to have fun, but can make plans to have fun if needed.
5. I love to dance and if I go out to, don't need a partner. I favorite way to let it all out and vent.
6. I am smart and sassy
7. I know when to hold them and know when to fold them lol . I don't like to fight if it's petty.
8. I love broad games, spades, chicken foot........list goes on.
9. I willing to try anything once /wink, as long as it not high above ground.
10. I am independent but can always use a friend.