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I have always been accused of being optimisitc to the point of complete denial sometimes, but I am deciding that my new goal should be to focus on what I do have rather than what I do not have. So here goes - the top 10 list of things I do have...
(1) I do have intelligence and common sense. I am the only person in my family to finish college, and I have a Master's Degree in Criminology.
(2) I do have a few great friends.
(3) I do have the passion for helping others. One of greatest talents has been to be there for others, and to make their lives better. I am not afraid to stand up and speak out when I need to do so.
(4) I do have a job for two more weeks, and then I have the freedom to start my life over wherever and with whomever I choose.
(5) *****I do have the freedom to use as much toilet paper as I want whenever I want (my ex put the limit at 4 sheets - I am not kidding).
(6) I have a wonderful dog who loves me dearly and depends on me to care for her. She never leaves my side when I am sick or down - a truly devoted friend and companion.
(7) I do have the credit score that I never had before, and I did it by myself. After college, my credit sucked. I spent the last 1 1/2 years working on improving my credit and being more financially wise. Now my credit score is better than my anal retentive ex. He is jealous.
(8) I do have a reliable car that I also love. Its about the only thing I got from Mr. $800k man.
(9) I do have my freedom. I do not have to answer to him or to be dominated by him any more. I do not have to make excuses for his behavior or smooth over his condescending and arrogant comments to his family. They like me better than they like him anyway. And I don't have to give them a list of the house rules to sign when they come to visit me. His niece asked if they could stay with me rather than him when they come to visit - tee hee!
(10) I do have my dignity. I did not make a scene when his new gf was at my house (actually his house), but I helped to pick it out.
If anyone, I else wants to post their top ten, I think that might be great. I think I am going to print mine and hang it by my computer to remind myself how very great my life is even though sometimes it does not seem that way.
(1) I do have intelligence and common sense. I am the only person in my family to finish college, and I have a Master's Degree in Criminology.
(2) I do have a few great friends.
(3) I do have the passion for helping others. One of greatest talents has been to be there for others, and to make their lives better. I am not afraid to stand up and speak out when I need to do so.
(4) I do have a job for two more weeks, and then I have the freedom to start my life over wherever and with whomever I choose.
(5) *****I do have the freedom to use as much toilet paper as I want whenever I want (my ex put the limit at 4 sheets - I am not kidding).
(6) I have a wonderful dog who loves me dearly and depends on me to care for her. She never leaves my side when I am sick or down - a truly devoted friend and companion.
(7) I do have the credit score that I never had before, and I did it by myself. After college, my credit sucked. I spent the last 1 1/2 years working on improving my credit and being more financially wise. Now my credit score is better than my anal retentive ex. He is jealous.
(8) I do have a reliable car that I also love. Its about the only thing I got from Mr. $800k man.
(9) I do have my freedom. I do not have to answer to him or to be dominated by him any more. I do not have to make excuses for his behavior or smooth over his condescending and arrogant comments to his family. They like me better than they like him anyway. And I don't have to give them a list of the house rules to sign when they come to visit me. His niece asked if they could stay with me rather than him when they come to visit - tee hee!
(10) I do have my dignity. I did not make a scene when his new gf was at my house (actually his house), but I helped to pick it out.
If anyone, I else wants to post their top ten, I think that might be great. I think I am going to print mine and hang it by my computer to remind myself how very great my life is even though sometimes it does not seem that way.
I love it!!!!!!
Great idea!!!!
1) I am a seeker and am always looking for the solution.
2) I have a great sense of humor and love to laugh.
3) I love nature, the outdoors and traveling. It helps me to feel connected.
4) I have strong values, morals and integrity and always try to do the next right thing.
5) I am a great mother and am always seeking to instill my children with insightful knowledge. I would step in front of a train w/o blinking to save them.
6) I love to help others and share what I have learned there by finding purpose in my painful history.
7) I am a great friend and lover. I am loyal, faithful and committed.
8) I am a wonderfully creative and talented and intelligent person.
9) I am committed to growth, recovery and self realization.
10) I love to cook, grow my own herbs, read, swim..............................................
2) A place to live
3) Family
4) My kids
5) A running car to get to #1
6) Freedom
7) A big heart
8) A full belly
9) All of my hair (and some I don't want)
10) ummmm...butt acne?
2)My parents who have been there for me always.
3)The two best friends that anyone could ever ask for.
4)Morals and integrity.
5)I own my home, it is a safe place for my children to live.
6) countless others that love me and care what happens to me and my children
7) a job that makes me happy, most of the time.
8)employees that go out of their way for me, I am so fortunate.
9) A sense of humor, even through this hell I've gone through.
10) A wonderful, loving man in my life.
11) My ds friends, without them I don't know how I would have survived.
- I have a job even though it IS working at a department store. Least I can pay my bills.
- I have my health
- I have emotions. I am not cold and cruel.
- I have loyalty. I was always loyal to my family and friends.
- I have my dignity
- I have the ability to care about others and help them.
- I have the ability not be so dependant on a man ever again.
- I do have a lot of respect for my stbx's family and always will.
- I have the Lord in my life. He is what gets me through life and he gives me strength to move foward.
2) Jesus in my heart
3) My children
4) common sense
5) Most beautiful kids
6) my home
7) Friends
8) My family
9) Positive attitude
10) So many Blessings...
2. I do have God by my side
3. I do still have my parents and brothers and lots of other great family
4. I do still have great friends
5.I do still have even the ex's family.
6.I do still have all the goodnight kisses and hugs.
7. I do still get to wake up with my children by my side
8, I do still get to hear all the giggles, see all the smiles, share all the moments
9. I am still smart, caring, giving, sensitive, loving...........................
10.I am still me and I still have happiness
The only thing I do not have is him. He did not make me who I was and who I will be.
1)I have the greatest family anyone could ask for, who support me through any decision i make, and who love me regardless of my mistakes.
2)I have my education, and a whole future ahead of me that I can focus on, rather than trying to focus on HIS life, and HIS dreams.
3)I have my goals that are soon to be reached. I can actually say im doing these things for myself, and not for "us" or him.
4)I have a few friends who have stood by me through the worst.
5)I have my hobbies, which make each day better because im actually doing something I enjoy! without having to ASK if i can do it!
6)I dont have to anwser to anyone but myself!
7)I am winning the internal battle i've been having with myself and my weight! for the first time in my life im losing the weight, in a healthy way.
8)I have my common sense. I know that even though it hurts to lose him after three years, i have learned that he wasn't everything i thought he was, and that as much as i miss the good days, the memories of the bad days make me realize how much im better off without him!
9)I have control over my life and my heart! I dont have to worry about whether or not today will be a good day. I wont stay up wondering if he is cheating or not. I wont be worrying about what HE thinks or what HE wants. I only have to worry about ME!
10)I can say that for the first time in my life, I am in control!
2) forgiving spirit
3) three precious boyz
4) intelligence and a Master's Degree to prove it
5) awesome job(s)
6) self respect (something I lacked when allowing myself to be treated so poorly)
7) ambition
8) a REALLY good friend (like a sister)
9) health (for the most part)
10) everything I need