OMG I was JUST thinking, after sending out a 'call for support" email to my trainer and friend...

about what are the things that are REALLY, TRULY important in life

and what things I have been treating like they're important (distractions, worries etc) that really aren't.

fit right in line with your thought in this moment, right?

John Lennon, there are no problems, only solutions. Easier said then done. Sometimes we can go the extra mile, others not.

"They give me all kinds of advise, designed to enlighten me". Watching the wheels go round and round... john lennon

love the quote... put it on my frig.

With some things, I found, sometimes all we have to do is let go and let our higher power do the work. i really do believe there is a master plan that unfolds itself if we let it. Sometimes we just have to get out of our own way.

We are all right where we are supposed to be in this exact moment.

Some moments are painful, but life is not static, its ever changing, and most everything is temporary...including pain.

Sending love and light to all.

Question. Does sending love and light protect us from darkness? Sometimes it does not.

To one man in human history that power was given, depending on what you believe. The rest of us are just human and hurt at times.

Nope,certainly doesnt always protect.

I apologize if my sentiment offended anyone...

It was just my way of saying that i wish everyone the best...

I suspect

grief
is about honouring what you had by crying over what was lost

pain
is a call for you to find and use the necessary tools for healing, physical or emotional bandages, casts, or therapies

and anger
is a call to action, to stand up taller, stronger, to work smarter not harder

I know that. However for those of us that have lived past the age of 30, these words are not new. Yet here we are.

I would like to add a lil tidbit, that has helped along the way also.

It (detachment) is not detaching from the person whom we care about,but from the agony of involvement.
-- Al-Anon member

good one

These are all pretty words. But just that. Words. I have seen the fourth agreement referrenced to here many times, that I agreee with. Words. Like the words we were lured with to begin with and the promises made. How to find happiness after that is our challenge in my hunble opinion. And blowing sunshine up my behind just doesn't work for me anymore. I have about ten thousand quotes delivered to my inbox on a daily basis. Resistance to my grief is futile.

resistance to grief IS futile

and you're right words ARE empty

it's up to you to put action behind the ones that YOU believe in

Namaste and I are doing that, and I bet plenty of others are too

If you say so. Don't know, but those of us in the shattering stage of grief don't really feel regrugitating john lennons remarks is helpful. Glad you're putting action behind what your saying, but honestly if you were all so happy you wouldn't be here. I'm here because I'm miserable and have no life without him. Not to try and think I have any sage wisdom to impart, or have time to waste.

Well, I'm not all the way "there" yet, but I'm closer now than I ever have been before, and I'm VERY happy in my life right now.

Having said that though, I appreciate just how happy I am, because I hanging on by a thread for a L O N G time.

I have tremendous respect for grief, pain and anger. I didn't deny them, I just looked for ways to hang on while I walked through them.

It's a horrible experience, no doubt about it.

AND, I recall how about all the energy I had back then was to wake up one more day, go to work, love my son, and then collapse in my fatigue and agony every night.

DOING SOMETHING about it, comes a little bit at a time, at least it did for me.

I think my, or your experience right now, are not at all uncommon.

Find your way to hang on. That's about all you can do in this stage.