Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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This is from Divorce Care, and it, um, hits the nail on the head, so to speak.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
And Andy, I agree....I think that was the way God meant things to be but what we do with it can be completely different.
I respect someone's desire to show their strength to refrain from sex outside marriage in honor of their religious beliefs. But, quite frankly, I've seen WAY too many chest-pounding, so called- born again Christians saying one thing LOUD and CLEAR and then privately doing quite the opposite. I think many of the readers of these overtly religious posts react negatively because they read into them, as I often do as 1. Chastisement for those who do not practice what is being preached or 2. They often, and perhaps correctly, assume the writer may talk the talk but doesn't walk the walk.
Please understand stevemoon, that this is not saying that you personally are a hypocrite OR that you are chastising anyone. It is just the tone of religious posts that often conveys these unspoken themes. Then again, sometimes the chastisement is in fact intended.
But, assuming that you did indeed intend this as a helpful post aimed at persons who share your religious convictions or perhaps those considering returning to same; good luck with that !May God with His infinite mercy and willingness to forgive us all continue to do so!