Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This is from Divorce Care, and it, um, hits the nail on the head, so to speak.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
If you're not married, sex is evil, ugly, disgusting and horrible.
If you're married, all of a sudden that evil, ugly, disgusting and horrible thing becomes wonderful and beautiful.
It works on kids who don't know any better and who are still susceptible to being intimidated by fear from their parents and who still believe in the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny. But trying to make people conform to something out of fear seems...so immature.
"Keep it in your pants or my invisible friend is gonna getcha!"
It may be helpful if you take it as an attempt for him not to to preach to people who do not share his religious convictions as much as trying to be helpful to those who do. Sex (much like divorce itself) creates a whole slew of questions and conflicts for certain types of believers. This was meant for a specific audience.
As Boyd suggested, he could create his own group for these kinds of posts. Maybe now that he has generated some interest that may be an idea. However, sometimes you just don't know who shares the common thread of belief. Geo's group was created after he'd been here awhile and actually started as a discussion thread. The same with Kimmeee's storytelling group. Those two particular groups were given a chance to generate interest to see who might want to partake in them.
Have a little patience, people. Everytime someone talks about their beliefs or brings God into the mix is not a reason to get freaked out and kill the messenger. Not every shared belief is an attempt to judge someone else. In my opinion, this man was merely trying to be helpful to the few who might be looking for this type of solution.