Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This is from Divorce Care, and it, um, hits the nail on the head, so to speak.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
The desire to have sex is natural, and when you were married, you were free to satisfy that desire. Your longing for sexual intimacy won't go away just because you are separated or divorced. In the coming days, we will help you gain an understanding of the sexual issues that are or will be confronting you at this stage in your life.
Rose Sweet says, "Sexuality after divorce is one of the toughest things to deal with. You've been sexually involved in your marriage. It's normal. It's natural. It's healthy. Now you don't have it. What do you do with those feelings?"
Elsa Kok says, "Your natural inclination, if you've been in a married relationship, is if you kiss and that kiss is passionate, that right away leads to sexual contact. You have to set strict boundaries when it comes to dating and relating to the opposite sex."
God created the sexual experience to be beautiful and good between a husband and wife. Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, 7).
Holy God, I want to honor You and remain pure. To tell you the truth, though, sometimes I'm just too tired to be strong in this area and sex sure feels good. But I choose to do better than that. I choose to turn to You for help and strength. I know that what You will give me is far beyond the rush illicit sex will give me. Lord, Your gifts are deep, lasting, and strong enough to build a life's foundation on. Amen.
In fact, just reading that line, 'passionate lust like the heathen,' I have to fan myself. Those racy Thessalonians, putting ideas in my head!
We are a community here of believers in Christ and Buddha, atheists, wiccans/pagans, agnostics, Jews, etc, and I think it would be best if you offered prayers and religious themed writing in a different way, so non-Christians don't feel pressed or preached to, rather than posting them as you have. You have received one objection, and I expect more will come.
Fundamentally, this is a support site for all going through the Hell that is divorce... that is our common affliction, and our respective religious beliefs should, in my view, take a back seat to all-important inclusion.
I make this suggestion with all respect and love.
I said it and I meant it! :)
Not everybody is into the biblical perspective on this. But the fact that it's hard and it's scary in this day and age. Is no understatement.
Quote: "Outside of marriage, a sexual union is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences. "
The last time I checked MARRIAGE itself is fraught with difficulties and negative consequences.
boyd52- I completely agree with you.
I do not apologize for contributing.
Here's my strict boundery: "You have an 11 inch dick. It's not getting anywhere near my asshole."
How's that, Preacher man?
Well, might as well make the ride a fun one aye?