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If your spouse was exchanging messages with another women, but it wasn't physical, would you divorce him? There were up to 30 messages a day, usually about random subjects. Towards the end, his messages were more questionable, telling her he missed her and that he might need a hug and that he hoped they worked the same shift together soon because he wanted to see her beautiful face next to his. I know it sounds like a physical relationship, but her husband had spy ware on her phone and I saw thousands of messages and there was no reference to anything physical. Her hubby also had hidden cameras and he had spies at work. I know what I think, but I wanted to see what you guys think. Would you dump him?
he with the gold rules
gold rules me
i want gold
i want what i want and _____blank you if you are in my way
in general people are tending to be more & more selfish and concerned only with now with no thought to the consequeces for others caused by the quest for "me gotta be happy"
This is a no-brainer.
What you described is a very bad situation, my question to you is, do you love your husband enough to make it work?
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Tammi
Your feelings are absolutely valid and as for him, well, karma is a bitch.
If you are still in love with your husband this maybe an opportunity to start over and fix whatever is broken in the relationship, but of not, then he just gave you the ticket out to freedom.
Sorry,
but 30 messages a day is taking quality time away from you and your family and his work.
Telling someone she is beautiful, misses her and needs a hug, well, I won't be a wife and feel 2nd best and don't want leftovers.
A relationship doesn't have to be physical to be cheating.
Have you asked the husband of the "questionable lady who accepts cheap thrills from your husband" if he has caught her before because it takes a lot to want to spy on someone, especially to the extent that he has. It is not something I would ever do. Usually our guts tell the story.
I don't know how many other troubles you have had, and I believe it is always both parties somehow, but you can never trust this man and the magnitude of his efforts at an affair (why else want hugs etc.) surely show you that you will never be able to trust him as he can even confess to what his REAL intentions were.
Best of luck in your new and better life.
We can't know for certain what these people who won't confess would have done.
We can't know for certain if it already has been done, maybe before, maybe a lot.
The only thing we can base our knowledge on is PAST BEHAVIOR.
No one wants to be alone.
We all crave to be loved, belong etc.
But how much disrespect, for that is just what it is, do we take in order to attain belonging and being needed.
The way people treat each other today and the civility we show each other has plummeted as fast as the advancement of technology.
We can only start with ourselves by demanding to be treated with respect and most importantly give respect before demanding it of others.
I am not married, but have been dating for a little while: at first things were great for many months, but I have seen that he has not taken full responsablilty for his life/bad choices etc and working towards goals/ bettering himself and his own happiness. He expects me to fill him up and make him happy, but that is not how a healthy relationship works.....both "whole" and healthy people are required to remain in a good place I believe. He gets really upset when I pull away, but it is me separating my personhood from his.
That is just my two cents, but your experience may be totally different???