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Stupid, stupid, stupid

Nevergonnadanceagain
Nevergonnadanceagain

It's has been over three months since he told me he was leaving me. Three months of living together. Three months of working side by side on all the projects I've wanted done to finish our home. Three months of showing the house. Last night I came home after hanging out with a girlfriend and I laid in my bed thinking about how much I miss him. Stupid, stupid, stupid me got up and went and crawled into his bed. He said hi and that's it. I laid there for a while and held him and still missed him just as much as I did when I was in my own room. It is over and no matter how many times I try to tell myself that he is going to change his mind, he isn't. I need to be separate from him so I can push pass this pain.

PeteMason
PeteMason
Yes you do need to be separate. It is not stupid stupid stupid to want to be with someone you love, it is sad sad sad if the feeling isn't mutual. Resist the temptation to be hard on yourself, you are human, and when it comes to love, YOU are a beautiful human. You will be fine, you have yet to meet the REAL love of your life, something to look forward to then.
Nevergonnadanceagain
Nevergonnadanceagain
Thanks!
mirandac
mirandac
Generally when they are checked out and bonded
With another person you are wasting your time and
emotional Energy even thinking about them. Its hard
I know all too well. Detaching from them is the key.

They are long gone mentally, morally And emotionally.

Our recovery journey is up to us to deal with and Come
to terms with. Its not about them anymore but About us
dealing with All our grief, rejection, hurt and pain. They
are no longer your friend or have your best Interest at
heart only their own.

Divorce care and therapy do help a lot, HUGS
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
My problem was that I always tried to look for love in the outside world but I learned how to generate that love from within with the spiritual path I am following. My wife divorced me about 5 years ago over her childhood sweetheart that came into her life. When I let go of the anger, the resentment and the self pity was when I healed. I forgave her and today we are the best of friends. That would never have happened if I did not have love for myself.

God Bless
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