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I did something i shouldnt have done. my husband made me block some male friends on face book when i was with him. Now that he is gone i unblocked them. one of them ive known for 18 yrs , it was a guy i used to work with back then and we did have a fling. which we ended on good terms back then. something i was open about with my husband. My husband didnt like this so he had me block him.
Now since i unblocked him we got chatting and he asked me out for a chat as friends. I went and we had nice chat but he was all over me and it was something i was not ready for. he hugged and kissed me before we said goodbye and gave me a bunch of flowers. I was not attracted to him and As i was driving home i knew i wouldnt meet him again but would just chat on facebook. I told him it was all to much to soon.
Anyway, my husband today was again waiting for me after work and he told me he had a video of me kissing that guy and that he gave me flowers. How would he know? i checked i wasnt followed.. .I told him whatever i do now has nothing to do with him. I told him he is the one that ruined our marriage. I got my phone out to ring police and he went. Now tonight he was hammering my door and throwing stones up at the window. I rang ploice and opened the window. He shouted up and said i know your with that guy, and your talking to him on facebook. He even knew some of the conversation i had with my friend. how?
I have just changed all passwords but i know he never had any of my previous ones anyway . How can he know all this? and after all he has done to me he is more concerned now about what im doing. "
Now since i unblocked him we got chatting and he asked me out for a chat as friends. I went and we had nice chat but he was all over me and it was something i was not ready for. he hugged and kissed me before we said goodbye and gave me a bunch of flowers. I was not attracted to him and As i was driving home i knew i wouldnt meet him again but would just chat on facebook. I told him it was all to much to soon.
Anyway, my husband today was again waiting for me after work and he told me he had a video of me kissing that guy and that he gave me flowers. How would he know? i checked i wasnt followed.. .I told him whatever i do now has nothing to do with him. I told him he is the one that ruined our marriage. I got my phone out to ring police and he went. Now tonight he was hammering my door and throwing stones up at the window. I rang ploice and opened the window. He shouted up and said i know your with that guy, and your talking to him on facebook. He even knew some of the conversation i had with my friend. how?
I have just changed all passwords but i know he never had any of my previous ones anyway . How can he know all this? and after all he has done to me he is more concerned now about what im doing. "
So how sorrow and pity do you feel about your poor husband now and how much love do you feel for him now and how much do you want to cry about him now?
One thing we were taught as kids, is that a skunk is always a skunk and never changes, and you stay away from them otherwise you get sprayed and it leaves a terrible long-lasting odor.
He could have put that on years ago. To keep an eye on you. Or maybe he did it the time he picked up mail....I'm not sure how long it takes to put one on a computer.
Take you computer and have it checked. If that's one there, there must be a way to uninstall it.
My first thought was private investigator but that would cause tons of money. A key logger would be my guess.
Change all your passwords from a computer he knows nothing about....at a friends perhaps. Or the library. Cyber Cafe.
I'm so sorry about your horrible night, and your run in with him as well.
His tears are fake and I won't fall for it again.
last night showed me yet again the snake he is.
Please stay safe and don't let his actions control your life, some people think that any kind od attention is better than none, even negative attention.
After reading your journals and seeing the things he's done he's obviously not in a position where he can control himself. I think a restraining order would probably be a good idea if that's a route you wanted to take.
Do not let him home at all. and always stay with public.He is stalking you.Check your laptop and check the car also .Take care
I would think if you told a judge that he was video taping you without your knowledge, it wouldn't be hard to get a restraining order.. Then if he does keep harrassing you, it's easier for him to get arrested.
If she follows my suggestion on the other thread where he hammers and her door and she calls the police and then opens the door and whacks him quickly with the shovel, he will be there on the ground at her door when the police arrive.
Also, when he is throwing stones at her upstairs window, I suggested she have an awful color fabric dye in water prepared in a bucket by that window and then dump it on him. She calls the police and the police will be able to find him at his home with the color dye that matches the dye from her bucket at home.
If a prowler is around outside and she calls police and they're on their way and she sprays a heavy spray of pepper spray in his face, the prowler will be there on her property when police arrive.
It begins to add up that he is on her property, stalking her on her property repeatedly, and the police are called and pick him up each time and are witness to him on her property.
If she doesn't get really smart and tough about this, he will evade and continue to do this and get away with this like he is. Opening a window and yelling for him to "go away" certainly doesn't put the fear in anybody. But some pepper spray, a shovel to his body, getting dye dumped on him, and visits to the police jail will probably have more of an effect. And dye is so hard to get out of face, hair, and clothing.
So if you have a prowler beating or "hammering" at your door that you are afraid he is going to break threw your door, you're not allowed to use any weapons to protect yourself inside your home? Like pepper spray? But he is allowed to creep around your property, throw stones at your windows and stalk you?
Find out what the police have to say about the use of weapons on prowlers, people hammering at your door and you're afraid they are going to break down the door, and throwing stones at your windows. It seems like the criminal can do anything, but you would not be able to protect yourself--something seems off with that.
http://www.cps.gov.uk/publications/prosecution/householders.html