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I've literally made myself sick this entire weekend over a situation. Any input is greatly appreciated.....I'm torn.
I crossed paths with someone last week. This gentleman came into. Y business. We chatted for a while. A long while. He immigrated here from Italy 7 years ago. We share the same culture and he even tested my speaking skills. We talked about all kinds of things...and he asked if I would like to have coffe with him next Wednesday ( which was the Wednesday we just passed)
He ended up calling me the next day..and asked if we could meet on Sunday. I said sure...thinking it was instead of the Wednesday plan. We met up last Sunday...and again on Wednesday. All went well and we spent a lot of time talking this week on the phone too.
Here is my issue...
He's perfect. Beautiful inside and out. Smouldering, charming, sweet, accomplished, a talented musician, refined, etc.
I think he's great....and even though he is so beautiful to be with..I just don't feel a spark. And there's no reason not to.
Am I intimidated? Scared? I have no clue....but there's no sparkle..no zing..no energy.
What do I do? I want there to be...but there isn't. Does it grow over time...or is this my gut saying he's just not for me?
Ideas?
I crossed paths with someone last week. This gentleman came into. Y business. We chatted for a while. A long while. He immigrated here from Italy 7 years ago. We share the same culture and he even tested my speaking skills. We talked about all kinds of things...and he asked if I would like to have coffe with him next Wednesday ( which was the Wednesday we just passed)
He ended up calling me the next day..and asked if we could meet on Sunday. I said sure...thinking it was instead of the Wednesday plan. We met up last Sunday...and again on Wednesday. All went well and we spent a lot of time talking this week on the phone too.
Here is my issue...
He's perfect. Beautiful inside and out. Smouldering, charming, sweet, accomplished, a talented musician, refined, etc.
I think he's great....and even though he is so beautiful to be with..I just don't feel a spark. And there's no reason not to.
Am I intimidated? Scared? I have no clue....but there's no sparkle..no zing..no energy.
What do I do? I want there to be...but there isn't. Does it grow over time...or is this my gut saying he's just not for me?
Ideas?
If I was you I would continue seeing him for a while, and if no real spark ever starts to ignite then you will know this may only be a friendship for interest's sake and nothing more. Not every encounter with a man has to develop into a longterm or permanent relationship.
You probably find he is intrigued by you not falling all over him at the drop of a hat. Being a smouldering Italian he is probably more accustomed to that happening, so your cool confidence is no doubt a new kind of challenge to him.
Take it easy, have fun and see if it goes anywhere for you.
Don't rush it. Enjoy your time with him, and maybe things develop, maybe they don't. Just be you.
Of the three important relationships I've had, one was a desire to be married, one was a chess match, and the other was two long time friends finding they had bigger places for each other in their hearts. None of which was a spark for me, they were all pretty much slow burns. I kinda like that better though.
On the other hand, chemistry can develop, too. Or maybe he's a great guy, but not THE guy. But you'd have to get to know him first before you really find out if you're compatible.
We crossed paths again yesterday....talked about it...and it was different.
remember, sometimes people enter our lives and are meant to only be there for a short time before they go further down their path. our intuition can help us figure out that type from the permanent type.