man, first off, let me say I am sorry for what you're experiencing. Based on your situation, I have to say, as bad as it is today, it's goign to get much, much better. Throughout our divorce, my ex and I resided together, and it was a disaster from day one. We still don't have a great relationship and share custody of kids, and so much was left unsaid, and really, wouldn't matter if was said. We're two different poeple with different lives and different plans. Embrace your new found sense of where you're life is going to go. A clean break beleive me, as painful as it is, I'd trade my right eyebrow for it. I'd say arm, but then I'd not be able to type and eyebrows grow back, ask any breakdancer kid from the early 80s, and/or fan of Vanilla Ice and you know what I'm talking about.

Same as how terrible you're feeling. In short order, thigns are going to fair well for you. I hope this day passes quickly as Saturday is only 9 hours away...
time to start a new tradition. Maybe next friday, get with some friends and go for a movie and/or bowling, something to distract you from thinking what the day was. Best to you.

your not being negative, your hurting, i know it does not feel like it, and you did not want it, but, it is the beginning of your new life too. now it depends on what your going to do with it, the emotions involved with break-up and divorce are so very overwhelming. but time really does help. keep coming here, you will get the encouragement you need to keep moving forward. i'm so sorry that you have to go through this.

I am so sorry, so very sorry. I 'm glad you are sharing your sorrow with us. I don't know what I would have done without the kindness here at DS the last few weeks.
It is natural to grieve this great loss. Isn't it AWFUL that we just have to travel through this horrible time of loss and adjustment w/o any shortcuts? We just have to feel these feelings.... I think your partner is missing out on much by forgoing her commitment to you..... you seem like quite a human being to me.
Hugs and comfort to you, peace to us all. Soon.

Hey Mark,

Wow! That's rough--I'm sorry you're hurting. Go ahead and cry; we'll provide the big shoulder and soothing hugs.

Peace and hugs to you. It will get better.

I am sorry, 4 weeks is not very long. I had a hard time just breathing. I was so angry at him because he didn't see what he was doing "to" me. It is so cliche but time heals, if you can keep breathing and let yourself cry. Call your friends and family if you can. It will get better I promise. I never thought I would ever let go but one day I realized how dysfunctional we were. I never would have left. I still cry and still am on the roller coaster of emotion but I know I will be OK. You will too. Let yourself grieve. Joyce Meyer has the best audio CD out on grief, christian or not they are amazing. I highly recommend listening to them, she helped me heal allot of wounds. Good luck!!! Here is a big hug ()

You gave me great advice. I've never been in this particular spot before so it is so nice to hear from a guy's point of view.

I can offer some to you. My ex husband, years ago, called me on the phone at work to tell me he isn't in love with me anymore. We had a 4 year old, had a life and was happy. I thought things were fine and BAM.

I cried, begged, pleaded, tried to convince him and made a blubbering ass out of myself and he ran harder and faster away. I stayed up nights on the computer with private detectives and going through every cell bill and bank statement looking to get him and make him PAY.

I gave up. I grieved. I cried. I started to heal. I starting putting my daughter and myself first and foremost with no agenda. Made new friends and was genuinely happy with my new life.

He came to me about 10 months later and sat in my new kitchen of my new little house of my very own and HE CRIED. He said he loved me and made mistakes and didn't know what came over him... he wanted his life back.

Karma - I rejected him.

Grieve, be mad, be crazy, and day by day it will go away until the pain and the dreams of your life together will disappear and you can clearly see your own life taking shape - A new life, a better life.

We are all here to listen and support you through this time.

All of us on here are caring loving people and we love deeply so we have felt the same pain. We are a special bunch of people. Include yourself in our group! You are not alone! You are among some of the best people in the world. We all draw strenghth from each other, we give and recieve love and strength. Other than church I have experienced a more healing place. Your storm is in the begining stages and you have to go through it to get to the other side. We will help you through! Some of us have made it to the other side. Some are close and others, unfortunetly are just feeling the wind. Hang on tight and stay close to the group for protection we will get you through!

Your wonderful and exciting! You will be just fine and you have now have date night with some of the COOLEST people around the world... We won't judge you, argue with you, or break it off with you... You are going to see this was the right thing.. I guarantee it...

I am with you man. I am going through something similar. I hate it and wish I could turn back the clock. Stick with us and we'll all help you.